Not sure what to do on this one. 7yo DC2 has been helping herself to the treat cupboard. I've asked her not to do this, and to check with me first, so I can have a think about how much treat food she's had, proximity to meal times etc. She's ignoring me, and is not quite canny enough to cover her tracks, so I'm finding wrappers everywhere.
For context, we are not especially puritan/clean eating types. We very often have a proper pudding, and especially at the weekend there are crisps and sweets, but in moderation. Also, DC2 is what's euphemistically known as A Good Eater, and at times gets a bit chubby. Anyone else dealt with this (particularly with a child who doesn't give a monkey's about adult approval)? TBH it's as much about the continued not giving a stuff about what I've told her as the constant sweet eating.
Get rid of the treat cupboard! Both as a consequence of her helping herself and to keep everyone in the family healthy. If you want pudding etc. then buy it on the day.
Put it out of reach. Explain to her why you've done it. Say that when you can trust her to not take more than her share (don't talk about greed or over eating-just about fair shares) you'll think about letting her help herself again
Educate her on healthy eating and why treat food is bad for health and teeth, so it’s limited. Ask her what healthy food she thinks would be a better option when she feels like having a snack. Give her choices of healthy food she likes and make sure her meals are filling. Also, make sure she’s drinking lots of water.
If you can't trust her, move it. We had our treat stuff in a low cupboard and 7 year old knew to ask before taking - he was also told if he did start pigging on stuff without asking it would be moved, but he enjoyed the novelty of helping himself and kept check of what we had in there.
Thanks all for your advice. I am aware I am going to sound a bit MN Unreasonable Supersoaker on this one, but as there are five of us in the family I don't want to get rid of the treats just because it's causing issues with one of us. I did move them, but she's pretty determined (got a chair, climbed onto work surface and reached the top cupboard). Obviously will move them again, but for the sake of the other DC would not see this as a permanent solution.
Consequences thus far have been a bollocking stiff talking to, both about health, and about trust. I will admit I struggle with DC2 in this area, as the other two DC are far more about adult approval, which makes them much easier to steer.
A locked box that only you have the key for? Unfortunately that means that everyone has to ask you for the key but if the stuff talking to’s aren’t working and she’s so determined that she’s climbing on chairs then what else can you do?
if she is sneaky she would probably just eat other children's treats once she had ran out?
In that situation, I find siblings are brutal at pointing the finger and expecting justice! Boxes in their own rooms, thieving absolutely forbidden with direst of consequences.
Once the snacks/treats aren't communal family food, but belong to specific people, it's easier for her to see the moral behind it. That would be my theory, anyway, in the same way people don't generally regard getting one over on a big company as stealing, but wouldn't take £10 off a sole trader for example.
Buy it on a daily basis or not at all. Fill your cupboard with healthier snacks, she could have a sugar addiction and these are difficult to manage, I had one like this.
You must be able to hide them somewhere & 'allocate' treats at weekends or whenever you want, most people (I know I am ) are tempted by 'treats' - I've already finished off two special boxes of chocolates that I bought for Christmas, without sharing them.
if it bothers you, buy them less regularly and/or find a much better hiding place,
With three kids, with the best will in the world it's impossible to constantly supervise a 7yo! Sympathies OP, I have one of mine like this. Not a weight problem but certainly a sneaking one! We do limit total no. of treats in the house, for my benefit as much as anybody else's!!! If it helps, I can think of a few kids when I was growing up who were totally sweet mad. All of them won't now let a single sugary calorie pass their lips as adults, and are bringing kids up on a diet of raw carrots and cabbage
This does sound like my dd and yours sounds just as desperate, climbing eating siblings treats. Please nip this in the bud, it will only get worse, mine is 22 and has a stash of sugary treats in his bedroom now. There was only one of our dc not sugar addicted. It's not healthy and can lead to other addictions like smoking, drinking and drugs. if you can't manage get help from your gp, addictions in children are never something to be ignored.
I’d recommend replacing the snacks rather than banning them outright.
A big fruit bowl with “interesting” fruit they can help themselves to (not just one tired golden delicious and a mouldy tangerine!) Kiwis, grapes, plums, nectarines etc.
Healthier things in the snack cupboard or fridge. Carrot/cucumber sticks, mini ryvitas, individual chunks of cheese or mini Babybels, sugar-free versions of drinks.
With three kids, with the best will in the world it's impossible to constantly supervise a 7yo!
I disagree. Age is irrelevant. If you have 3 kids and one of them is 2yo you supervise. There is literally no reason that should change simply based on age. Supervision should be loosened depending on ability and maturity of the individual. Aside from that it is the kitchen that needs kept an eye on. I still do that with one of my teens!
) are tempted by 'treats' - I've already finished off two special boxes of chocolates that I bought for Christmas, without sharing them.
