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(32 Posts)
Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:25:13

Hi All

Could anyone please shed light on whether I am fretting unnecessarily or not?

My daughter started reception this year, and we have decided to throw her a birthday party, with predominantly school fiends asked. Out of 60 children we sent 15 invites. The rsvp cut off date was 2 weeks later. Somewhat disappointingly, to date I have only received one yes. We have another week left. I guess I was hoping for speedy replies, or at least a trickle, but absolutely nadda, apart from the one prompt answer.

I'm trying to stay optimistic and patient, but failing on both fronts.

Hit me with both barrels ladies. I need a reality check.

Also should I chase people up come the rsvp date?

hiyasminitsme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:26:43

email or whatsapp the parents a reminder? it's customary to invite the whole class in reception....

berliozwooler Tue 07-Nov-17 13:27:34

Text them.

2014newme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:29:04

Email the parents or text them?
Did they get the inviteS? I'd wonder that they might not have

Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:31:01

Can't do any of the above, as I do not know any of the parents. I confess to feeling awkward when sending the invites, as we are using a soft play venue and finances would not stretch to 30 children. I did not realise this was customary.

2014newme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:32:12

How were the invites given out?
It's fine to invite 15 kids! Nonsense that you have to invite the whole class!

NapQueen Tue 07-Nov-17 13:32:21

it's customary to invite the whole class in reception....

Maybe round your way. Not ours.

Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:32:36

I did wonder whether the invites had been received, but I handed one to a daddy myself, plus received that one yes.

dementedpixie Tue 07-Nov-17 13:32:46

I don't know why people always say to email or text as how on earth would you have those details?! Our school wouldn't give out names of the children in the class never mind contact details

I would maybe send a reminder invitation if the rsvp is reached. How far in advance did you send them?

Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:34:00

Phew bit of a relief, thought I'd made a faux peas without even knowing.

Lukeandlorelai4Ever Tue 07-Nov-17 13:34:13

I can't understand this about rsvps? Is it an English thing? I've never had this problem with dds parties and no one I know has ever mentioned it.
Just text them all now and ask if they are coming?

dementedpixie Tue 07-Nov-17 13:34:17

Some people invite everyone and some don't. If it's pay per person then numbers will be more limited than if you book a hall where it doesn't matter so much

2014newme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:34:26

For example, if you're rsvping to am invite yourself, save the parents number. Lots of people have been together at nursery it's not uncommon to have the numbers of other parents! 😂

dementedpixie Tue 07-Nov-17 13:34:46

How can she text them with no phone numbers??

Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:35:40

Sent beginning of November, for party in mid December. We wanted to lock it in due to most people's diary being busy that time of year.

2014newme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:36:43

Ah perhaps people are waiting to sort out Dec events. I know we have hardly any free days in Dec

dementedpixie Tue 07-Nov-17 13:36:45

you've maybe sent them too early then. 2-3 weeks is the notice I normally give

2014newme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:37:21

I give 6 weeks! 😂

lovelyjubilly Tue 07-Nov-17 13:38:53

I would go up to them in the playground and ask them directly. A friend and I recently threw a joint party for our 5yo dd and ds. Even with two of us trying to chase up RSVPs, out of 30 invitees we had the following:

11 said they would come and then came.
1 said they would come and then didn't.
4 said they couldn't make it.
12 didn't respond.

Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:39:29 sit tight then???

berliozwooler Tue 07-Nov-17 13:39:31

We get a class list with all the numbers and any details people want circulated at the beginning of the year, put together by the parent class rep. I couldn't do invitations without it for the first couple of years at school!

TheMogget Tue 07-Nov-17 13:39:31

You sent the invites early November? So it’s been a week at most?
You need to give people until the RSVP date before you start panicking.

lovelyjubilly Tue 07-Nov-17 13:40:08

I realise those number don't add up to 30 but you get the gist!

Benny4 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:41:12

It's a minefield.....will chase for dd's sake, but will be well out of my comfort zone.

dementedpixie Tue 07-Nov-17 13:41:44

I would not chase people yet as we're only at the start of november so the party must be a month away. I would send a reminder a couple of weeks before

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