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forgetmenot1 Thu 02-Nov-17 21:29:19

Hiya everyone,

New here.. my child is really struggling with the idea of death. Weather it be himself, me or anyone around him. It's been a frequent topic lately at home and school. He is scared of us all getting old and dying. I know as he grows older he will understand it clearer than now (he's 7) but how do I talk to him about death in a way to settle him down from worrying about it so much? He gets very tearful and upset when he talks about it and it's really bothering him. It's heartbreaking and I don't know the best way to go about this. Please help if you can xx

BackforGood Fri 03-Nov-17 00:57:25

I would ask him why he is so sad about it.
I would explain that people either believe that death is the end - in which case there is nothing to fear from it as you won't feel anything or experience anything once you are dead, so there is nothing to worry about, or that many other people with religious beliefs think there is a wonderful afterlife that is a better place than here on earth, so, once again, something that not only isn't to worry about, but some people feel is actually something to look forward to.
I wold let him know that I'm not afraid of dying, or being dead.
I would tell him it is absolutely normal to feel sad when someone you love - or even like - dies, because you know you are going to miss them, but that it is statistically unlikely that you, or his Dad or {list whoever he is worrying about} is likely to die anytime soon, and it would be a waste to spend all the years you have to enjoy with them, being sad by worrying about something that will happen a long time in the future. There is no point in worrying about the things we can't change.

forgetmenot1 Fri 03-Nov-17 08:42:20

Thank you so so much. What incredible advice and such beautiful ways to put it. I will sure absolutely put these into our conversation later. Thank you so so much for this, it's helped me a lot with how to talk about it. Your a star! Thank you xx

BackforGood Fri 03-Nov-17 13:38:53

You're very welcome smile

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