Am returning to work after 1 years maternity leave in three weeks time. Have DD 3 and DS soon 1. Both will be in same nursery 4 days a week full time, and one day a week I have off and both will be home with me. I work 9-4.30 with a 1 hour commute. My work is quite intense but not physical. DH will do morning drop offs and I will do pick-ups. DH gets home at 7.30pm and I will pick up at 5.30pm. So I will be coming home, cooking dinner and feed the kids and slowly start bed time, and when DH comes home we will each put a child to bed, then it's together clean up after dinner, perhaps do some laundry and prepare for the next day. We are already sort of doing this routine, but now I have time to do housework during the week as I'm home.
So my worry is how general housework will get done. I will get a cleaner once a week for 3 hours to do general cleaning and Change beds, but day to day cleaning and laundry and grocery shopping remains. In the morning the house always ends up looking like a bomb site with toys and left over breakfast sitting around. Not to mention towels and clothes. Any ideas how I'll cope with coming home to a mess with two tired and hungry kids and having to cook dinner in the mess or tackle it first? Also, once kids are in bed I'm sure we will be destroyed, but then will have to tackle general tidying and laundry etc, perhaps online grocery shopping. My worry is compounded by the fact that DS is a terrible sleeper and I've suffered sleep deprivation since his birth. He wakes +3 times a night and will only re-settle on my boob. I don't feed him to sleep, he goes to sleep in his own bed around 7pm but then wakes around 11pm first time and screams bloody murder until I give in and breastfeed him. I've tried letting him scream out this first wake up (with intermittent settling) many times, he will scream for 1 hour at least before falling back asleep and will then awake again around 3-4am and repeat the process. At this second wake up I'm usually to exhausted to let him scream
For too long and too worried he will wake up DD and DH, so this time I usually immediately take him into bed with me and breastfeed him back to sleep and then he stays there for the remainder of the night. I know I should maybe let him scream through second wake up too and then maybe he would learn, but I'm just too exhausted! Am worried how I'll cope with work on so little sleep. I'm a bad sleeper myself so find it hard to go back to sleep after he has woken me up and don't fall alseep easily at night.
I would be very grateful for any advice on how to handle housework routine or improve sleep.
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Practical tips for coping with housework etc after returning to work, pls?
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Londonmamabychance · 31/10/2017 09:47
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