My 8 month old has been pulling hair for awhile now which I know can be typical for babies. However, DS has now started grabbing people's throats (usually mine.) He doesn't easily let go and it really hurts. I firmly say 'no' as I know at this age they are starting to understand tones of voice. I also know though that their memories are very small short. Any other suggestions on ways of handling this? Thank you.
Sorry I was only meaning that his action was aggressive; he obviously doesn't mean it. Thanks for your suggestions. DS has a lot of sensory stimulation I think he has too much to grab so he is beginning to think my neck is a play thing!
It's just a reflex at this age. He's learning to grab things and your neck happens to be close. Nothing to do with how many other things he has to grab.
You can't really teach him not to do it, he'll grow out of it when he gets better control over his arms and hands. Until then just try and hold him facing out or further away from your neck unless he's all sleepy and cuddly.
My dd started biting and grabbing around 9 months - im pretty sure by 1 year she knew it was something she shouldnt do as it always coincided with her having a whinge aboht something. I did what you did and just said no firmly and put her down for a couple of seconds then we had a cuddle and continued..
Now at 14 months shes just about grown out of it so i think it must be a developmental phase?
Thank you primarnoodle. I completely agree with you and think it may be a developmental thing. DS has been very frustrated as he's trying to sit up unaided and hasn't quite managed it yet. That coupled with the teething has made for one very hot headed little chap. It must be very frustrating for babies wanting to do so much but not being yet able. Lots of cuddles and kisses will hopefully get him through this funky phase!
My daughter did this at the same age except it was biting my nipple when she was nursing. Like a damn crocodile. I would say no very firmly and set her down for a minute, and she knew I was not pleased. Thankfully, this charming phase didn't last long.
Just gently pull his hand away if you don't want it. It's very typical for them to do this. It's like cats kneeding if you've ever seen one do that. It's a comfort thing. Mine actually pinches my neck (it's not painful, I've taught her to do it gently as I don't mind as long as it doesn't hurt). She's 4 now and still does it if she gets upset and I'm holding her to comfort her. She's done it since she was a baby. It's much like you twisting your hair or biting your nails absentmindedly. Some people get necklaces specially made that they can touch and play with if you don't like the grabbing and pinching. But otherwise, just move his hand away. It will eventually pass. They don't realise you don't like it at this age, so I'd not make a big deal out of it.