Had a pretty bad day today so am hoping someone that's been through this can pass on some words of advice. None of my friends have gone through this so feeling in the dark and have definitely hit a wall.
My toddler has been going through what my DP calls a 'daddy phase' for about 9 months now. We both work and it's pretty 50/50 when it comes to her. I have one extra day off with her.
It's become worse more recently where she'll only go to him if she's hurt, been slapping me in the face, shouts no at me a lot and doesn't want to give me kisses etc. I'm continuing to remain consistent and upbeat with her and not let it impact how I am with her (which is pretty bloody hard) because that's just the way it is and I'm her mum. My DP has been doing a great job of 'promoting' me to her and is affectionate to me around her when she's in a rejection mood.
The only thing she had been ok with up to this evening is me putting her to bed. Till now! She had a full hysterical fit tonight and it really hit me hard this time and I couldn't hold in a little cry (shamefully in front of her which I feel terrible about) I'm usually a very strong character and can handle most situations logically and calmly but feel broken. I pulled myself together and persevered. I managed to calm her down by singing to her and she eventually relaxed.
I'm quite sure my mental capacity can't cope with that every night and I don't want to upset her. We're at a loss for what to do. Do we carry on as normal and let the phase (if that's what this is) ride out or do I let DP take over whenever she rejects me? Is there anything else I can be doing? Or should stop doing?
Feel like I'm failing on this.
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TooFew · 22/09/2017 20:33
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