AIBU?

[motherbear2]

So... I'm a part time teacher, DS is 2.5 years old and I'm 35 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. Every Friday I get together with my mum and we have a lovely day out / play date with my DS and my nephew. My brother and SIL both work full time and it's great that I get to spend time with my nephew. Anyway, my SIL is a teacher and on 6 week holidays - I have been expecting a text / phone call asking if she can look after my DS for the day to help me ( as I'm the size of a house) out but this hasn't happened? I'm starting to find it a bit rude and infuriating! AIBU? Would you say something?

[FreedomMummy]

Have you actually asked her to have your DS for you to give you a break?? If you haven't then YABU I'm afraid as she may not realise you need the help/support.

[Gorgosparta]

You just expect her to call and offer to baby sit?

Because you meet up with your mum and have a playdate with her child?

If you want help for, ask.

[KarateKitten]

You're being rediculous unfortunately. Ask for help if you want it but your SIL probably has no idea of your expectations!!!

[AgadorSpartacus]

I can understand how you might hope that, out of the kindness of her heart and with no prompting, she might think to ask that.

However, you don't actually look after her child for her you simply meet up with someone who HAS her child. So it isn't really a tit for tat situation.

Therefore YABU she isn't a mind reader. Ask her.

[Fruitcocktail6]

Eh? I don't understand why she should be looking after him? When you meet for play dates isn't it because your mum is caring for your nephew?

It would definitely be very nice of her to offer, but I think YABU to expect it.

[PuppyMonkey]

I wouldn't say anything. she might be busy. She might not want to look after your child.

[motherbear2]

I think you guys might be right. I was expecting a 'goodness of her heart' gesture. I haven't asked her / my brother and don't intend to. Im potentially guilty of spending a tad too much time thinking about it. I put a lot of effort into entertaining / feeding / going to and paying for events etc for my nephew ( not that this is the issue at all) My mum is the person picking him up and dropping him off but I do see it as a day that I plan every week and look after two children.

[Gorgosparta]

But your mum is there.

You arent providing them childcare. Your mum is. Sounds like your mum is palming the childcare off on you.