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Toilet training... pulling my hair out with my 3.5 year old... help!!!

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Louisa111 Fri 26-May-17 07:41:59

I can honestly say out of everything I have found toilet training one of the hardest things EVER!!
My lovely ( but very strong willed and stubborn) 3.5 dd just keeps going backwards on this rather than forwards. She uses the toilet with her own plastic seat at home but when it comes to poos just not Interested. But just lately if she's busy playing she's having a few accidents leaving it too late to go.
At preschool she takes her seat with her to sit on toilet but the teachers have told me she just won't sit on it so she either holds herself or has accidents there.

I don't want to put her back in pull-ups during the day but dealing with a newborn and now all this is really wearing. I wondered if you could get pantyliners for toddlers just to help on the days she doesn't make it on time and leaks abit. The not going at preschool is just gonna be down to when she feels ok to it I suppose.

I'm getting frustrated as lots of her friends are all completely clean and she just doesn't seem bothered. Even when she's wet she doesn't seem to feel uncomfortable... she just carries on as normal .. help!!!!!!

starsinyourpies Fri 26-May-17 07:56:48

I've not tried them but these might be the kind of thing you're looking for?

Dry Like Me Toilet Training Pads - 18 x 4 pack (Total 72 Pads) (Packaging May Vary)

Nan0second Fri 26-May-17 08:02:20

Take her pants off and keep her in a bare bum until she's reliably dry and sorted. Underwear feels like a nappy for some (snug around the genitals) so encourages them to behave like it's a nappy.
She can wear a dress or jogging bottoms when you're out the house. Inside the house a naked bottom half will refocus her.
Also no pressure from you at all. Make sure she isn't constipated (it's not about how hard the poo is)

Louisa111 Sat 27-May-17 07:04:14

Thankyou starintherepies I might try those... it may help.
Nanosecond I could try that but we have mainly carpets in the house so not very practical... I think my husband would have a fit if there was lots of accidents on the dd drinks a lot of water, always had done so we would not be talking about small accidents... I think I'll just carry on as I am... she's a very stubborn girl so it's going to be when she's ready I think

Babytalkobsession Sat 27-May-17 07:19:42

We struggled with ds. He's 3.5 now, but started just before 3. He's completely sorted now for wee but poos we're a total nightmare, he just wouldn't do it. He either went in his bedtime pull up or in his pants. I had a newborn then and i literally changed shitty pants every day for 5 months.

We had a poo chart which he completed to get a toy, specials toys just to play with on the toilet, bribes, various story books about poo... it was just a drain.

We had a better spells but now back to a reward system as he's reversed back to holding for his nappy. He poo'd his pants yesterday, today on the toilet.

We honestly couldn't have done anymore & he still struggles. Point being, she will get it eventually. Is she open to going back to nappies? Could you calmly explain that as she clearly isn't ready, she'll have to wear a nappy? I imagine she either won't want to or will be happy to, in which case at least you remove the stress of accidents for a while.

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