Running away when called, refusal to do basic things/ comply with basic things like being cleaned etc?
For background, we have a new six week old baby - DD2. He was two when DD1 was born and he handled it really well. This time around, there's a lot more emotion and "acting out". I know he's struggling and my heart aches for him but I'm also low on patience. I have a four year old, two year old and six week old.
We've started doing star charts and it's mostly ok. But he's so emotional and I don't know how best to help him. I don't know if it's being four, the new baby or both. He's really emotional and non-compliant where previously he's hardly had tantrums and was pretty easy going.
Recently he runs away from me and screams and cries at me when we need to go home from somewhere (this afternoon was the park). He was obviously tired and hot, and I tried to just gently get him to sit for a moment and have some water. It just deteriorated from there, really.
I know arguing back and not listening is just part and parcel of them getting older and pushing things. It's the running away from me - I'm completely flummoxed on how to handle it. I think some (a lot) is reacting to me/ the baby/ my tiredness and short temperedness, and feeling upset about things. I've reached out to him q few times about it - told him it's ok to feel jealous and it's ok to tell us, and he has done. Other times when he's been driving me crazy I've acknowledged he's feeling bad but that it's still not ok to behave like that etc. Other times I just handle things really badly - losing my temper, shouting etc.
What's your four year old like? How do you handle frustrating behaviour?
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Dont know how to handle my four year old right now
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RedCrab · 25/05/2017 21:28
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