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Feeling like a single mum

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TiredMum89 Tue 16-May-17 09:47:36

I don't think I've ever wrote on here so I'll be writing in full words cause I'm crap with abbreviations lol!
Anywho!
This is a bit of a rant but need to get it out..
I'm a new mum to a beautiful little girl aged 4 months now. I have a partner but I feel like a single mum. Partner isn't working at the moment and has problems sleeping at night so mostly stays awake at night and sleeps for the majority of the day. It hasn't really been much of a problem until now. I get up with baby in the morning, I have her all day going out a walk, to the park or shops or my mums and then back home. I try to get some cleaning done in the morning before I give baby her bottle but don't get a lot done. When I get home, my partner is usually awake and playing the computer.. not cleaned anything or tidied anything up so I go a bit moody when I get in. I then feed baby and do everything before getting her to bed, by that point I'm usually fizzing with anger which he can't seem to fathom so I then go to bed and have baby beside me in her Moses basket. For the full night he will be in the living room and me in the bedroom with baby sleeping but I hear every movement she makes and he doesn't so if she wakes in the night I get up and deal with her.
I love my baby so much and wouldn't change her but I'm slowly going out of my mind sad
Not really anything to say to that but needed a wee rant so if you read it all thanks lol

Cranb0rne Tue 16-May-17 15:47:11

I'd be seriously fed up if I was in your shoes. Why doesn't he do household jobs?

InDubiousBattle Tue 16-May-17 17:52:14

Of course you wouldn't change your dd, she sounds like the very least of your worries. Is he actively seeking work? Who does he think he is playing on a computer all day leaving the childcare to you?

Gillian1980 Tue 16-May-17 18:29:00

Have you spoken about it? What does he say?

Spoog1971xx Tue 16-May-17 18:40:04

Basically he needs to shape up or ship off. He's acting like a teenager.
If you sleep during the day you won't sleep at night! Does he get up with the baby at night so you can sleep?

Marmalade85 Tue 16-May-17 18:51:04

He sounds depressed. Why isn't he working?

TiredMum89 Tue 16-May-17 20:58:34

Thanks for all your replies!
He does some household chores but it's when I'm usually at my wits end lol(I shouldn't be laughing)
He has ptsd and depression but I also have depression so the added pressure doesn't help. I feel like I can't talk to him because he has his own problems but that also doesn't help me sad no he doesn't get the baby at night as she sleeps next to me in he Moses asker and I wake with he every move.
He does little things which makes me feel bad for bad mouthing him but I'm stressed and I tell him I'm stressed thinking it'll make him help me more but nope envy

Chattycat78 Wed 17-May-17 13:00:42

Sorry - he needs to step up. This is unacceptable. You are both parents and need to share the workload. Start telling him the things you need him to do. Are you up at night feeding the baby too?

My dh works full time but does a lot at home too. If you're isn't working he has no excuse for not helping with the baby and also doing chores. You presumably need a break too.

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