Some advice please on what to do about my 22 month old. She’s always been quite independent and is not afraid of strangers etc. She started nursery in January after being cared for by my mother before that after I returned to work when she was 7 months. She is very happy at nursery.
She speaks very well for her age, so understands everything
In recent weeks she keeps asking for cuddles and to be picked up, especially when I am doing something and she doesn’t have my full attention– e.g. hanging out the washing. She will grab my legs and ask to be picked up so I have to stop what I am doing. If she is told off for being naughty, she cries even before I am finished telling her off, and shouts “cuddle, cuddle, cuddle”. I see my character in her – I really hate conflict too, but it is making it hard to discipline her to stop her doing usual toddler stuff – throwing food, touching things she shouldn’t etc.
My mother (who still looks after her a lot) thinks the clinging and not being able to bear to be told off is because she misses me (I am at work full time).
I’m not sure how to handle it – the issue is- she doesn’t listen to what I am trying to tell her. She knows what she is doing is naughty – eg pinching, but if you even tell her calmly – “we don’t pinch” as soon as she senses the disapproval, she demands cuddles.
I know at nursery she gets lots of cuddles from the staff who seem to really like her! I’m going to talk to them about it at nursery parents evening, but I’m wondering if I should “give in” to these demands for cuddles – or finish reprimanding her?
I’m a single parent, so it’s just the 2 of us most of the time – apparently she’s an angel at nursery/for my mum/ sister.
I just want her to be able to tolerate someone being cross with her without trying to appease them – as I really hate conflict and discord. I want her to be able to deal with it better than me..
Any ideas/ advice? Is this just a phase they all go through? Obviously, she is only going to get “naughtier” in the next few years so I’d like to start off on the right foot…as I need to start enforcing consequences for naughtiness at some point ( nursery don’t do discipline, just distraction). She is like me - wilful, stubborn, seemingly independent but keen to be approved off. I want her to turn out better than me!
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Toddler (22 months) cries when being told off and asks for cuddles before I’ve finished
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changedtempforprivacy · 15/05/2017 13:48
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