Was cuddling my 3.5 year old in bed last night, we had just been at someone's house also wit their extended family. I was reading a cookbook that showed a happy smiling family, you know skipping through the park all shiny sort of thing. She looked at the picture, then went quiet, then said "I don't have a family mummy, because I don't have a daddy".
It kind of took me aback, but cut me like a knife at the same time. I've been a LP since early in my pregnancy, she has never met her dad but I have actively encouraged them meeting so it's his decision.
I knew this would start to come up at some point, she will have lots of questions as she grows. I tried explaining 'you have a mummy, we are family together, I love you very much, families come in all shapes and sizes, some have xxx and some have yyy, I do all the things that some other mummies AND daddies do' etc - but she was having none of it, just replied with 'no mummy, I don't have a family, because I don't have a daddy'.
She sounded very confident in her opinion (as all 3 year olds do), is quite contemplative in general and has obviously given the matter some thought (in as far as a 3 year old can). I don't know what messags she gets from her nursery, she is there most of the week - I know they have done family pictures and things, but would hope they would clearly articulate that families do come in all shapes and sizes, for children like my daughter, and be sensitive to that.
I could talk to the nursery.
And other thoughts on what I can say in response to this, other than what I did say?
Thank you x
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"I don't have a family mummy, because I don't have a daddy"
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champagnecyclist · 06/05/2017 13:22
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