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Health Visitor issues

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user1493221484 · 26/04/2017 17:43

Hi,

I'm just looking for some advice on problems with health visitors. We have been reported a number times to the health visitor now for god only knows what reasons and we don't know what we are doing wrong.
How can i find out who has made these reports as its bringing me down now and I'm missing out on seeing my beautiful little girl growing up.

Any advice/help will be more than appreciated.

Many Thanks Nicola

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BrevilleTron · 26/04/2017 17:47

What are the reports saying and are you concerned that they may be malicious? Congrats on your little one.

Hecticlifeanddrowning8 · 26/04/2017 18:44

If your health visited had any real concerns about how you parent she would have contacted social services by now, so try not to worry too much. I would be more worried about who is doing this to you? Do you have any suspicions?

Crumbs1 · 26/04/2017 19:34

People generally can't 'report' to a health visitor - unless you go to accident and emergency a lot.
Why would your health visitor having concerns stop you seeing your child unless they've been taken into care (which isn't the health visitor)
Health visitors would discuss any concerns with you - so you would know what the issue was.
What makes you think someone has been raising concerns? What has health visitor said?

booellesmum · 26/04/2017 19:41

If the HV is contacting you about concerns they must have told you what the concerns were.
I work in outpatients and will contact HV if someone is repeatedly missing appointments with their child. This raises safeguarding concerns. The HV needs to check this out just in case there are any problems.
What has been said to you?

user1493221484 · 04/05/2017 11:19

Yes I am concerned that they are malicious as we have a few reports about many things lately. This is the 3/4 time I have been reported to the health visitor as apparently my house is 'untidy' when infact I am CONSTANTLY cleaning my home and have done since I had my little girl. I personally think it is jealous neighbours around by me as they have nothing better to do than ruin other peoples lives. But whenever anyone has come out they have said everything is fine and they don't know why somebody is reporting us. The health visitor has seen inside my house and has never had a problem yet now she has??
My little girl hasn't been taken into care, I just feel with all these appointments and home visits that I am missing out on seeing my baby girl grow up and it is really really bringing me down now.
I haven't missed any appointments with any health visitors, Sienna is weighed every month and is progressing amazingly. She's exceeding her milestones without a doubt. My little girl has never been into accident and emergency except when I took her with me as I had broken my foot and went into the fractures clinic at my local hospital in which she slept the entire time.

How do I go about finding out who it is and why they are doing this because this is now harassment towards me and my partner and we are at the end of our tether with it.

Thank you everyone for your replies/advice it is really much appreciated.

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MommaGee · 04/05/2017 11:22

They won't tell you.

You could say to your hv that you're confused there's so many concerns raised but when they come out they're happy.

Agree if they were concerned you'd have SS on your doorstep

Quickieat2 · 04/05/2017 11:23

It's unlikely you will find out. How many times have they reported you?
It is essentially harassment.

Quickieat2 · 04/05/2017 11:23

How many times have they reported you

user1493221484 · 04/05/2017 13:52

Is there no way at all they can tell me who It is or is there anyone else i can turn to because i want to take it further as I have quite literally had enough. I have spoken to the head of HVs for around here and she was no help at all.
Ive been reported numerous times all because I told my neighbour to piddle off during my pregnancy because she just became overbearing and I couldn't handle her keep pestering me. This 'neighbour' has also reported me to RSPCA saying my dog was 'underfed/underweight' to which the officer that came out told me if anything she was over weight and she was happy with what she saw and how much food i had stacked in for her to show she wasn't underfed. If anyone comes to my door when I'm not home she has to run out and ask them who they are and what they want when it has nothing to do with her. She has spread rumours around all our other neighbours that me and my partner are on anti-depressants, when infact neither of us are.
I have text her and asked her face to face to leave me and my family alone as we don't want any stress especially when we have just had our first baby and we just want to enjoy our first moments with our baby girl and being a family. I wasn't in anyway rude or nasty towards her, I just said leave us alone while we settle and now all this has happened since then.
I know its her that's doing this but i need proof to take it further which is why I was wondering how i could find out. I'm just really starting to lose it because I'm doing nothing wrong. My house is spotlessly clean and id happily invite anyone round to show them, Sienna is more than happy but this is just going to far now and I have had enough.

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kateclarke · 04/05/2017 13:56

If the names you have used for you and your dd are real, you may want to get them removed.

Could you talk to your hv and try and see her as a supporter rather than a threat?

wolfster · 04/05/2017 14:37

I don't think a health visitor would bother to respond to someone saying your house was untidy TBH, did they say that's really why they were visiting?

1AnnoyingOrange · 04/05/2017 14:38

The problem is not really the HV as they are just following up reports.

The HV should be able to tell you exactly what has been reported but not who reported it. I am not sure you can do anything about malicious reporting other than always speak to the HV and prove them not to be true.

If it is your neighbour, I am not sure what you can do other than ignore her. The more you respond the more she has to keep her interested. She sounds loopy.

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