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Reported abuse to Social Services, now daughter won't speak to me

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Ajimnotabadmother Sun 23-Apr-17 13:45:27

My daughter is 25 and has a son who is now 5. I told her a while ago about the abuse I suffered as a child at the hands of my mother after finding out that my grandson is under her care post school and some evenings. My daughters reaction was total dismissal of what I told her. I explained in more detail that it was serious emotional, physical and sexual abuse and that it could not be dismissed. Her reply was that she wants her son to have contact with his great grandmother. I could not understand her stance on this and decided to report my concerns to Social Services. My report was taken seriously and I understand that the family are under "watch". Unfortunately now my daughter won't speak to me because of the "shit storm" I created. I'm beside myself with anxiety because as I now don't have contact with my daughter, I no longer have contact with my grandson. All I was trying to do was ensure my grandsons safety, but now I've been made to feel guilty for reporting the abuse I suffered as a child. If anyone has a similar experience or might be able to help, please let me know.

EverbodyTalkAboutPopMusic Sun 23-Apr-17 18:11:42

No experienced anything similar but didn't want you to go unanswered. I may be being a bit naive, but why does she know that you are the one who reported them?

FatLittleWombat Mon 24-Apr-17 20:02:33

I am very sorry this has happened to you. I can't help as I don't have any experience, but I just wanted to say that I think you acted very responsibly. You did the right thing reporting your concerns to social services. I hope your daughter will be able to see past her anger and get back into contact with you flowers

TinselTwins Mon 24-Apr-17 20:04:39

& I believe you

tribpot Mon 24-Apr-17 20:13:24

There is a child who needs to be protected in the way that you were not when you were a child. You've done what I'm certain you wish someone had done for you.

Cynara Mon 24-Apr-17 20:19:41

I'm so sorry this has happened, and I really can't understand your daughter's take on this at all. Thank heavens your grandson has someone (you) who is prioritising his wellbeing.

I think you'll just have to let your daughter come round in her own time. You must be very hurt though that she has offered you no support after you disclosed the abuse you suffered, let alone her decision to allow the abuser access to her son. At least in the meantime you know you've done your absolute best to safeguard your grandson.

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