Just looking for opinions and to generally get some frustrations out of my system.
I have a 10 week old dd and am starting to feel upset that not many family members have built a real connection with her.
I have little contact with my family which has always been the case so this was to be expected, but during pregnancy mil seemed very happy and keen to be in dd life.
Since her birth however she has only seen her twice. All offers of "help" have amounted to nothing. She visited a week after dd was born, our house was a tip and me and dd were napping when she arrived, she sat amongst the chaos for over an hour and didn't so much as wash her own cup let alone take any pressure off the house.
She is only interested in holding dd to take pictures of them together and is very awkward with her. Doesn't try to soothe or comfort her, even when she is crying (but also doesn't give her back to me, just swings her around ignoring her needs and making her cry more)
When dd was clearly overtired she asked me if she was in pain?!
She made rude comments to me about dh messing up lunch plans (he didn't, she just misunderstood) and rolled her eyes saying "oh he's probably tired, with not empathy for the fact that we have a newborn and yes he is tired.
She never asks how we are actually doing, feeling, coping, just calls to burden dh with her own drama.
Dh and I have not had 1 second alone since the moment she was born. As mil is so awkward with her I'm not sure I would even feel comfortable with her having her alone.
I just feel so sad for dd, we had always intended on her being an only, but with such little effort from those I thought we could count on I now feel like she will need a sibling.
Aibu and expecting too much?
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user1488794856 · 18/04/2017 10:11
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