I have dd3 and ds1. Dd is very bright and an absolute joy most of the time. Since turning 3 (3 months ago) she's started having horrendous tantrums. Really really bad and long lasting. E.g. lying on the floor in the supermarket for 25 mins and arching her back, screaming, kicking, punching me if I try to lift her. This is especially difficult if I'm on my own with the 2 of them and have ds in the buggy. Dd is tall for her age and surprisingly strong foe someone who hates vegetables and all sources of protein!
She will repeat the same phrase again and again for over an hour sometimes. When she's in an agitated, tantruming state there is no getting through to her. Distraction doesn't work. All I can do is hold her tightly in my arms and repeatedly acknowledge whatever has upset her it maybe sing quietly until she wears herself out screaming calms down.
This happens most days at least once. When it doesn't happen there are often times when she's clearly close to a tantrum and we intervene to prevent it when we can.
Our routine is like clockwork. She is happy and well loved and gets plenty of 1:1 attention from us both.
Tonight she had a tantrum in the bath because she wanted to have her teeth brushed with her old toothbrush. We threw it away a few days ago and she has a new brush which she chose. The tantrum carried on after bath. I was trying to get her into her pjs while dh sorted ds. She was hysterical - screaming at the top of her lungs. She scratched my arm and kicked me really hard - it bloody hurt. It sounds ridiculous but I just couldn't get her pyjama top on.
I lost my rag and told her I wasn't going to be kicked and screamed at. She would have to go to bed with no pyjama top on and no story. Dh took her upstairs, put her in bed and shut the door.
She calmed down immediately and is not calling out that she's calm now and ready for her bedtime story.
It's breaking my heart but I feel that she needs to understand that this is a consequence. Are we being too harsh though?
I might be over thinking this I know.
Do the tantrums sound normal? Whenever they happen in public people look so shocked.
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3yo tantrums - did we handle this really badly?
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CatsRidingRollercoasters · 15/04/2017 18:36
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