My relationship with my inlaws is very up and down. They live very close by and are obsessed with my daughter (first grandchild) so have always wanted to see her a lot and pop by unannounced etc etc. We've had some run ins in the past but generally things are fine.
The ironic thing is although when they're not with us we hear from them a lot when they're only with my daughter I get radio silence.
I am now back at work full time and my nearly 2 year old spends 2 days a week with my MIL and 3 days a week at nursery. Of course I am very grateful to my MIL for this but she has made it very clear that she doesn't understand why we send her to nursery at all and thinks she should be with them every day.
I asked at the very beginning, 6 months ago, if she could please text me once a day letting me know how my daughter is and I would be really grateful. I obviously miss her loads and although I'm very busy with work a brief text with how shes getting on, if she's had a good sleep or how she's eaten (any or all of the above) is always reassuring to receive.
For some reason this is always a problem. She will never text me. I am always texting her and on the one occasion that I did call she practically laughed down the phone as if to say what on earth are you doing. It made me feel ridiculous even though deep down I think I'm within my right to hear something.
I am never doing it in a way where I don't trust her or am checking up, it's always simply because I miss my little girl and would like a brief insight into her day.
I mentioned it to my husband and he had a word and for a day I got two messages full of kisses and detail but after that it stopped. I know looking after a child is full on - of course I do! Let alone for a 60yr old but she naps for 2 hours and they put her infront of the tv a lot so I'm sure she could find a couple of minutes.
My sister in law mentioned that my MIL had hinted at being full aware and said along the lines of ' I don't think I keep in touch enough for her'. No, nothing isn't enough at all.
How do others manage this communication/relationship as at the moment it's making me feel pretty miserable and my husband thinks I'm being unreasonable.
Help or advice most welcome!
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Mother In Law Predicament - am I being unreasonable?
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Fevs · 03/04/2017 13:45
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