I feel in shock.
My 6 & 8 yr old went upstairs to get into pj's etc while I quickly vacuumed the lounge. Once out of sight, elder DD1 picked up the younger DD2 (which I've already banned cos of potential danger, she's not strong enough to do it safely). DD2 after a bit says 'put me down'. So DD1 goes 'ok' literally drops her, DD2 smashes her head on the floor, I heard an almighty bang from downstairs which alerted me to it all followed by screams. Initially DD1 lied & denied, which is less significant but still awful to not take responsibility although after 10 minutes she did.
When I spoke to her to ask, why? DD1 said I just did what DD2 asked. She is 8 ffs, she knows it's wrong & dangerous and not what DD2 had asked her to do. She loves DD2, who trusts her absolutely, but deliberately chose to hurt her. I am so shocked & upset.
I've put them both to bed now but I need to be ready for the morning. How do you deal with behaviour like this? What is appropriate? DD1 hit me 3 weeks ago, maybe coincidence, and different circumstances (she was very tired & said I was treating her like a baby when I tried to help her undo her dungarees quickly for the toilet). I took away all treats for 3 days after that. Not much point doing that again though if it didn't work! I'm horrified she hurt her little sister in this way, DD2 is the most gentle kind & thoughtful sister she could have. Ideas for dealing with this??
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Appropriate consequence for this behaviour?
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2468whodoweappreciate · 24/03/2017 21:03
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