So a long story short; my daughter arrived 9 months ago, her father became an abusive, violent nasty piece of work when I was pregnant, which escalated further when she arrived.
I have tried my hardest to maintain a relationship there, whilst supervising all contact due to the risk he is.
Today on supervising contact, it was all about me. On leaving I asked how his anger management was going (as planned) and he said he hasn't been as there's no point anymore. As he's not bothered about being a parent, only controlling me. To which I asked if he sees no reason for making changes for his daughter, which he ignored.
I drive off and he follows me a good 4-5 miles home, sometimes driving right on the rear of my car, very intimidating. I drove to my parents and my dad managed to calm the situation when the ex got hostile.
I finally told him not to make contact until he has completed a formal anger management course. I have tried so hard and the whole situation is affecting my health considerably. I've given him so many chances to step up, but I can't do it. He has to make the changes before he sees our daughter again.
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user1487854472 · 22/03/2017 20:12
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