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user1489094655 Sun 19-Mar-17 21:37:31

I really could do with advice about issues I have about my children's school and whether I am being unfair and what to do. They are only niggles but when there are some many I feel they needs addressing

DD is reception, sen ds is in nursery.
Both started there in September (didn't get first choice of school)

I will be brief.

1. Gone to the expense of making costumes for 'wear something funny' for comic relief, they have now added it could be just non uniform, so now most kids are gonna wear non uniform which I would have preferred to do and feel my kids will be odd ones out.
2. Allowing own scooters to be brought in from home and used at lunchtime starting next week, isn't that dangerous, how are they going to manage it? what about arguments? kids who cant afford scooters? accidents? enforcing helmet wearing?
3. serving cake/haribo as snack time that other children have bought in for birthdays/or teacher has made. I only want them to have fruit for snack but if I enforce that it will make my kids different and dd particularly miffed.
4.sarcastic comment about ds sen issue to us.
5. head not having/wanting pta or parent helper. I think pta's raise much needed funds to enhance the school experience and pay for things that cant be bought from much squeezed budgets.
6.not having any sort of Christmas production.
7.teaching assistant for ds sen not spending all her time with him when she is paid for from the funding allocated from the county council.
8.communciation is poor, website not up to date, launched app but its not used.
9. homework is poor, not thought through and mostly printed from a website.

Finally, all the parents were invited to school to participate in helping to improve your child's handwriting skills activity hour. The behaviour of some of the children was dreadful, kicking a wooden sphere around the classroom from the maths table, not being told to stop. The activities were boring and not challenging, no structure to the event and the class teacher spent all her time holding and cooing over a baby sibling of one of the kids.

Am I being unreasonable or is it still an hangover from not getting the school we wanted.

Thank you

missmapp Sun 19-Mar-17 21:59:58

I think that points 4 and 7 from your list are things to worry about- especially point 7. If money is allocated to your ds, then the TA should be with her ( I assume you mean EHCP funding ). The other points are fairly typical school things which are common in many schools- especially the dress up/own clothes day bits .

Times when parents are invited in are always tricky, as the children get very excited and an inexperienced teacher may lack confidence to speak to a child about their behaviour in front of the parents. if that is you only concern over behaviour, I wouldn't worry.

Can you go to talk to the SENCO about your SEN concerns?

MiaowTheCat Tue 21-Mar-17 09:59:56

With number 7 - I'd check the situation out. Depending on how the school does things it might be the sort of setup I used to have at a school I worked at where the TAs had two pools of hours - hours as part of a child's statement that were to be used toward supporting that child's particular needs, and we often had the same TA as well having a pool of general class hours for whatever needed doing within the class as a whole. To an outside person looking in it might have seemed that Mrs X was meant to be helping Freddie but was actually working with a different group of kids - but actually, and it was all clearly documented and accounted for to the exact minute (I wasn't going to get pulled up on it so made sure that every minute of statemented time was used as such), that was part of the general classroom TA hours being used there instead.

Hopefully that makes sense.

The other thing I came across with point 7 was that we had a situation where the child with the statement (I know the exact terminology has changed since then but you get what I'm referring to) had become so dependent on the TA that we were working to build up some independence, so in discussion with the LEA advisor and SENCO - we also had times where the TA would appear to be occupied just quickly helping another child nearby and have to ask the child in question to have a quick go at something on a whiteboard and then she'd go through it with them... all done completely intentionally to get the child to have a small try themselves in a very low-key manner. That's just something else to keep in mind that might be going on and TAs generally are very good at appearing to be "busy" but in reality keeping a very good watch on a child and stepping in when needed but stepping back to allow independence when required too.

Behaviour when parents are in is always a difficult one - you've got parents who will basically go to every length short of ripping your head off if you dare ask their child to stop climbing the walls... so I'm not surprised the teacher's stepped back a little bit when the parents have been in! Last one I went to I got to stand in the bloody cold for an hour while DD1 chose to paint a cardboard box!

Don't get me started on effing dress up days though - we've had one every bloody week this half term at DD1's school and they are doing my bloody head in - it's superheroes this week... and like lots of parents of girls I've struggled to find anything that will pass muster from a very sparkly obsessed girl at a sane price (sorry DD1 I am NOT paying the best part of £30 for a fucking PJ Masks Owlette job).

Think it's that point in the year where school's getting on all the reception parents' tits though - judging by the list of gripes going on at the birthday party we were at this weekend - everyone was getting narked about things like on your list.

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