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Son misbehaving at school

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britespark1 Fri 10-Mar-17 16:16:46

My DS 5 (middle DC) has had trouble settling into his new school since we moved over the summer holidays. His behaviour at his previous nursery was fantastic but since he started reception we have had constant issues with his new teacher, saying he doesn't listen, is rude, wont wait his turn to speak etc. Today she informed me he had to be excluded from prayer time as he had constantly disrupted the others, topping it off with mouthing "you are fat!" to her across the room (for the record she most definitely isn't!)! I am beyond mortified. Talking to him about it he can't explain his behaviour and doesn't even actually understand what "fat" is (although we have discussed this before as I am very sensitive about my own weight). I don't know what to do with him, especially as out of our 3 DC, at home he is actually the best behaved confused. Not to drip feed he does have problems with his hearing, having to have the stubborn wax micro-suctioned again in a couple of weeks. How would you handle his behaviour? I feel like we are the problem family in our new village and that the teachers will always think he is awful.

britespark1 Tue 14-Mar-17 11:21:59


ExplodedCloud Tue 14-Mar-17 11:28:35

Surely most of the first group of 'rude' behaviours are directly attributable to him not hearing properly? In which case they need to work out something to cater for that.
One incident of cheeking the teacher isn't the end of the world. Did he definitely mouth 'fat'?

britespark1 Tue 14-Mar-17 12:19:11

His temper has just gotten really short, basically losing it over the smallest of things. I've just now picked up my youngest from the nursery and one of the TA's has come out with middle DS and told me he has had 3 'explosive' incidents this morning! He definitely said fat too, he spelt it out when talking to his dad about it at home.

I don't think they are taking the hearing issue seriously as its blocked wax as opposed to anything else but you're right, it could be at the root of a lot of it. I know how I'd feel if I couldn't hear very well.

He's genuinely a lovely boy and I would hate for him to labelled as a bad lad sad

Allthebestnamesareused Thu 16-Mar-17 18:01:58

But is the wax build up because he has glue ear. DS couldn't hear properly and had wax build up but after grommets fitted he could hear perfectly. Maybe ask for a referral to ENT?

britespark1 Thu 16-Mar-17 19:09:05

Update: After our rather useless family Doctor we now have an appointment with ENT next Monday. Remaining hopeful they will actually help him. Also had a meeting with his teacher which went better than I had thought it would. She has some ideas to try and listening to what I had to say, and also suggested he might have issues with low blood sugar. Apparently quite often when he has one of his bigger tantrums he is offered a snack and calms down quite quickly. Have never even considered this previously but definitely worth looking into.

ExplodedCloud Thu 16-Mar-17 21:15:29

Hope you get something useful from ENT. If he's continually being pulled up for being rude or not listening etc then he's probably really fed up and frustrated with school. Again that might be the cause of his outbursts. Blood sugar's an interesting point too. I suspect he picked fat because he doesn't know many insults!
Good luck

britespark1 Tue 21-Mar-17 20:57:44

Thank you. ENT was a bit of a letdown sadly. They managed to micro suction one of his ears partially but said the wax was too deep down so they are looking at another try with him under anaesthetic........bit worried about that. No improvement on the behaviour front either. He came out sobbing his eyes out today that the teacher had shouted at him and it took rather a long time before one of the TAs came out and told me what had happened.

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