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(41 Posts)
user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 01:55:31

I'm 17 my boyfriend is 22 we have a child and I'm pregnant again can I move in with him and there be no problems?

EyeStye Fri 10-Mar-17 01:58:12

Why do you think there would be problems, have ss been involved with you previously?

SealSong Fri 10-Mar-17 02:01:34

I'm a social worker, and just because you're young that doesn't mean that social services will assume that there will be problems, unless you are already struggling in a way that will impact on you both being good parents or unless specific concerns emerge.
Do you think social care may become involved for some reason?

Even if they did, it's not necessarily a bad thing...they want to keep families together if at all possible, and can offer help.

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:03:12

I mean our age gap? Is that bad for them to complain

amysmummy12345 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:04:26

Who will complain?

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:05:53

The midwife or health visitor

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:07:03

Can I live with my boyfriend I'm 17 and he's 22 so can I set up and book a doctor appointment about this pregnancy that I'm living with him

JonesyAndTheSalad Fri 10-Mar-17 02:07:53

I believe you're over the age of consent so in the eyes of the law there won't be a problem.

0riole Fri 10-Mar-17 02:09:38

How old is your eldest child?

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:10:31

ohh yes law that's right so I can make my own decisions

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:10:48

She is 5months 😒

0riole Fri 10-Mar-17 02:14:42

It might be very difficult for you with two children that are so so little, so think about living where you will get the most support. Do you live with parents or on your own now? Do you have help with your eldest?

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 02:18:58

Yeah I'm sure I'll manage though I'm very capable and I have allot of mothers supporting x

abbsisspartacus Fri 10-Mar-17 02:26:02

They might be concerned not because of your age as such but combined with the age gap of your children it might be an issue

0riole Fri 10-Mar-17 02:26:05

That's good to hear smile don't worry about social services, if they do become involved they will do all they can to help you flowers

MelinaMercury Fri 10-Mar-17 02:30:13

Yes you can move in with him.

No there won't be any problems if you are both responsible parents.

Is this your boyfriend or husband OP?

blueskyinmarch Fri 10-Mar-17 02:30:59

Social services won't be interested unless there are other issues which the midwives alert them to.

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 03:32:29

Oh so if the midwife have any concern then they will be in contact with them that's all I wanted to know because I don't want the hassle at all 😊👑 x thankyou guys very much

MelinaMercury Fri 10-Mar-17 03:35:18

Didn't you see a midwife last time?

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 03:44:03

Yes I did but I never was living with him x we was at mums

shitgibbon Fri 10-Mar-17 04:54:37

Your age gap should not be a concern. It is not a significant age gap. It may seem like it now but when you're 23 he'll be 28, totally normal.

picklemepopcorn Fri 10-Mar-17 05:48:33

17 is young to have a 5 month old by a 22yr old dad. If your parents support you and the HCPs don't see controlling coercive behaviour from him, then they won't say anything.

user1486273640 Fri 10-Mar-17 10:13:13

Yeah I'm really close to my mother 😊💓 x hopefully everything will be smooth and I can move in with him cause it will be nice having him with both of the kids instead of us mostly staying at mums it's time to be more independent I get my benifits I will be fine and he works to provide too x

MelinaMercury Fri 10-Mar-17 13:26:48

OP I'm really confused by your posts at the moment.

A few weeks ago you posted on the infertility board stating that you were a "married gypsy" surely you would already be living together?

picklemepopcorn Fri 10-Mar-17 13:33:22

However can you tell 'users' apart, Melina? I can't even remember the number long enough to look it up...

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