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Feeling like the worst parent in the world

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Chloeisobelle21 Mon 06-Mar-17 19:43:03

I'm pregnant and the last two days I've been majorly stressed with my other half being overly possessive and trying to control what I'm doing.
Tonight my toddler was misbehaving and wouldn't put her PJ's on. I just lost my rag and grabbed her and shook her by the shoulders and shouted at her to behave. I'm sitting here crying my eyes out, I feel like I don't deserve children and I can't believe my temper got the better of me like this. I'm so ashamed of myself sad

Chloeisobelle21 Mon 06-Mar-17 19:44:29

She's 3 years old and just looked so upset, I cuddled her and said I was sorry and she just kept saying 'mummy shout' she's okay now but I feel like just crawling into a hole I feel so guilty.

hahahaIdontgetit Mon 06-Mar-17 19:45:38

Please give yourself a break, yes, shouting isn't ideal, but you're human.

Believeitornot Mon 06-Mar-17 19:47:18

Let this be the moment you realise you I'll try not to do this again.

Can you leave your partner?

PastysPrincess Mon 06-Mar-17 19:48:08

Is there anyone that can come and be with you; it sounds like you are overwhelmed and need support. It's good that you've made up with her but shaking a child can be extremely damaging. I think you need some help for her safety and yours.

SandyGEE12 Mon 06-Mar-17 19:51:51

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SandyGEE12 Mon 06-Mar-17 19:51:53

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Mummamayhem Mon 06-Mar-17 19:54:56

Er sandy you need to get those posts deleted with that email auto correct error.

Everyone well probably everyone has shouted and feels bad. Shaking is another thing, it's dangerous. Learn from it and don't let yourself get that cross again.

Chloeisobelle21 Mon 06-Mar-17 20:08:46

I just can't believe I did it. Oh my god have a damaged her???

Chloeisobelle21 Mon 06-Mar-17 20:08:57

Have I *

Mummamayhem Mon 06-Mar-17 21:03:19

I can't tell you, check! But seriously while MN is great for reassurance that we all get cross and say things we regret, young children are hard bloody work but I'm not going to tell you grabbing/shaking a toddler is OK.

Chloeisobelle21 Mon 06-Mar-17 21:07:08

No it isn't okay, and I feel
Awful about it

HumphreyCobblers Mon 06-Mar-17 21:07:43

The OP knows it is not ok.

It sounds like you are under terrible pressure at the moment. I too have shouted in an appalling manner at my children when I was stressed and felt terrible immediately afterwards.

Is there anyone who can give you a break? Are you afraid of your OH?

kiki22 Mon 06-Mar-17 21:15:33

I would say you need to get to the root of the problem and pull it out.

Chloeisobelle21 Mon 06-Mar-17 22:14:47

Not really afraid but he twists things and causes arguments and my hormones are all over the place and finding it hard to deal with things properly. We had a cuddle and I said I was sorry, she seemed okay. She's asleep now. I don't think I will even sleep tonight, I'm just absolutely ashamed of myself. I love my daughter more than life and I wouldn't never ever want to hurt her sad I'm just exhausted and stressed sad no excuse for the behaviour though sad

Trb17 Mon 06-Mar-17 22:44:45

@Chloeisobelle21 ... Mum guilt is the worst and I think most of us would admit that we've lost our rag at least once and yelled too hard or been too angry. We're human. You've had a moment today that you've learnt from and one you don't have to repeat. We've all made these mistakes along the way so put it down to a lesson learned, chalk up extra cuddles for the next few days and know that you're a good Mum (the Mum guilt tells you so) flowers

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