I feel so bad for my 14 year old son. I've been nagging him to go out every weekend as he seems to do nothing but stay in his room on the Xbox. He's a popular and sociable boy and I just couldn't understand it. After taking him to an appointment the other day we had a good long chat one to one which doesn't happen too often with four children and that's when he told me that all his friendship group are smoking cigarettes or weed and that's why he's stopped going out with them. He'll go if they are doing something other than smoking but not if they are (which seems more likely) he still gets on well with these kids and walks to school and back with them and hangs out with them at school (the group are both boys and girls) but has to ask if they are using something before socialising out of school.
I feel so bad for him. Not only has he been missing his friends but he's had me constantly nagging him to go out and giving him a hard time about not socialising.
I know he'd rather be out but he says that even the other friendship groups as he calls sporty or gamers are taking drugs too and there is literally only him that doesn't. He says that it makes him more determined not to take drugs so that he can prove he doesn't need them to be popular (which is more than I can say for some of the others) and I'm very proud of him for not giving in and following the crowd by going against what he believes is wrong.
But..... he's now a recluse! How is this fair, I don't know what to say other than to praise him for being so strong willed but that doesn't give him his friends and a social life back.
I'm so sorry that the norm is to take drugs at 14 years of age. I wonder what the world is coming too. Has anyone else experienced this?
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persianpeach · 17/02/2017 21:54
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