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AIBU- Concerts

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user1486495351 Wed 15-Feb-17 22:01:23

My 15 year old son is planning on going to a concert in May with five friends- which I'm totally fine with.
But my 8 year old son and 9 year old step son are also wanting to go. My 15 year old said that "as long as they don't talk to me, I don't care if they come" and said he would make sure they wouldn't get lost (he only agreed because I'm paying for him!)The concert starts at 8 and the they say they'll be back by around 11-12.
I can't go with them as my oldest would "die of embarrassment"...
My husband doesn't have a problem with it at all and says that he went out a lot at their age and my SS's mother doesn't care at all.

Also- My son's friends he's going with are 15-19 so technically there'll be an adult with them. But I'm slightly worried they'll be drinking (which I understand at my older son's age) and then won't be able to look after the younger two.

AIBU to not let them go as my husband and son say I am...

What do you think?

somethingwitty3432 Wed 15-Feb-17 22:17:34

No way wouldn't let them go - take the younger two to a different concert or event.

Onehellofaride Wed 15-Feb-17 22:20:35

No I wouldn't allow them to do this. Is it a big concert? Can you go with the younger two and not be near DS and his friends?

pictish Wed 15-Feb-17 22:22:16

No from me too. For lots of reasons.

maisybobbins Wed 15-Feb-17 22:52:08

You obviously need to be there with the younger DC!

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower Wed 15-Feb-17 22:55:57

Hahahahahaaaaa.... What?

You're kidding, obviously. 8 and 9yo at a concert on their own? Because that's what will happen. Obviously, no.

TheMysteriousJackelope Wed 15-Feb-17 22:58:03

as long as they don't talk to me they can come?

I think your 15 year old knows that the dynamic will be totally changed by him having to effectively babysit his younger siblings. It would be like taking them to an adults' only event, they behave nicely and are no trouble, but it changes the whole vibe.

If they really want to go, do as onehell suggested, take them and sit well away from your DS and his friends.

GCHQMonitoring Wed 15-Feb-17 23:05:17

No way.

I can't see how it would work anyway, as a 15 year old your son would need to be accompanied by an adult, presumably covered by an older friend, but those same friends would also have to take responsibility for the younger DC. Also minors can't usually do standing, so would seriously cramp your elder DC and friends ability to stand/push through to the front.

HardcoreLadyType Wed 15-Feb-17 23:23:59

Absolutely not! I would worry enough about the 15yo. (I would let him go, though.)

It wouldn't be fair to expect your 15yo to look after the two younger boys.

My youngest DS wanted to go to an event for years that my older two DC went to. They didn't want me there - fair enough. So DS had to wait until he was old enough to look out for himself, before he could go. Sometimes there has to be benefits to being the eldest.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower Wed 15-Feb-17 23:28:21

It's incredibly unfair on the 15yo, really. I'd be fucking pissed if I'd had to drag my 10yo sister to supergrass.

helensburgh Wed 15-Feb-17 23:34:20

No way.

Gillian1980 Thu 16-Feb-17 13:16:57

Too much responsibility for the 15 year old.

I'd take the younger ones and stay well away from the older one so he can do his own thing.

EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans Thu 16-Feb-17 13:19:15

I agree, take the younger ones and be nowhere near the older one. It would be completely unfair on him to have to babysit.

jujubeanz Thu 16-Feb-17 22:06:00

Wtf. No way.

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