Me and my ex have one child, my little girl. We separated over a year and a half ago and we are both now happy in new relationships and we get on fine with each other.
I work full time and so dd stays at his place while I work as he doesn't have a job and is in no rush to get one. But when I drop her off I have to see the state that I am leaving my dd in. The garden is covered with dog mess, there are toys, some that we had bought together for dd and they are rotting because they have been left there for months in all weathers. I know when having children and dogs it can't always be clean, I have lived it, but the dogs mess is at least 3 months as I have basically mentally noted down where it is. I have sometimes gone into the house to wait for dd to get her shoes on and the stench of dogs and cigarette smoke is awful, they most certainly smoke in the house with 4 children living there. The smell sticks to dd clothes and he's the one that takes her to school in the mornings so she is going to school stinking. He is so very unhygienic (one of the reasons I left him). When I mention to him to make sure she cleans her teeth as they are looking a little yellow, he says I will try my best, it's just not good enough. There are so much more other problems with his house and hygiene but this post is long enough.
I just don't know if it's my place to say, enough is enough, if you are going to share time equally then you must clean up. I worry that dd will get bullied for smelling or being dirty, I do all I can on my part, but I can't help how he looks after her when I am not there. I don't want to quit work full time as I am able to offer dd everything she needs and I am saving for her future. I just wish he could tidy up his life the way I have tidied mine, for dd and for himself.
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EVY1902 · 12/02/2017 15:47
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