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My kids mum is threatening to give them up

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hayl1991 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:39:48

Well my partner has 2 kids to someone else. Well biologically 1 and brought one up from him being 1 month old now she's just told him she's close yo giving them up. She uses them as a weapon against him all the time telling him he will never see his kids again ect. They live 200 miles away so he rarely gets to see them as it is. Now she's using "if I give them up they won't come to you because they won't want to" someone help ... What are his rights

TheoriginalLEM Thu 02-Feb-17 19:41:25

This is all very confusing.

Your partner doesn't sound very nice

Quartz2208 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:44:59

I think it's her partners ex. Why don't you say fine you will have them. If she does give them up social services will house with family

hayl1991 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:45:06

Not my partner sorry if its not clear. He has 2 other kids with another woman. Its her saying this to him and threatebig to give his kids up

Aderyn2016 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:45:10

My advice is to see a solicitor. If she does give them up, then ss would look to your dp as their father, to take them. Although he might have problems given he is not the bio parent of one.

LuxuryWoman2017 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:45:25

He needs legal advice. I'd say urgently.

hayl1991 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:46:19

And he's already told her that he would have them. She's 200 miles away and the only family she has are really I'll

PigletWasPoohsFriend Thu 02-Feb-17 19:47:34

He needs legal advice. I'd say urgently.

I agree.

hayl1991 Thu 02-Feb-17 19:47:38

Yeah he's not biologically one boys dad but he knows him as dad as he doesn't know his real dad. My other half is a fantastic dad I have a child with him.

TheoriginalLEM Thu 02-Feb-17 19:54:44

Sorry. Now you have pointed that out i can't believe i misread it .

Totally get legal advice.

uhoh2016 Thu 02-Feb-17 20:26:09

I'd tell him to say fine drop them off and see you later.
Why is she saying she's going to give them up? How old are they? Are they old enough to voice their own opinions on who they want to live with etc?
I think if she did go to ss to "give up " her dc then they'd look to their Dad as a 1st resort anyway. Does he want full custody given the opportunity?

hayl1991 Thu 02-Feb-17 22:11:01

Well update. Ive just found out she's self harming

hayl1991 Thu 02-Feb-17 22:13:47

So there is surely grounds for my partner to get his kids right?

TheoriginalLEM Thu 02-Feb-17 22:31:23

Not in itself no. It sounds like she needs help.

uhoh2016 Fri 03-Feb-17 08:23:01

She needs his support as the mother of his children that may mean children come to stay with you until she is well enough to look after them herself. But bear in mind you live 200 miles away it might be easier for the children to stay with another family member closer to home to maintain some normality with school etc.

Finola1step Fri 03-Feb-17 08:28:42

The key question is does your partner have Parental Responsibility over these children?

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