DS is 6 months. A really easy, fun, smiley baby. I've BF from the off and he's been in a Snuzpod next to our bed the whole time.
Sleepwise it's been up and down. Just coming out of the sleep regression stage and he's waking around twice a night. Feeds and goes back to sleep easily.
DH has never woken for nightfeeds. DS will take a bottle of BM but I've never been organised enough to have bottles of it ready for night times.
I'm starting to get resentful of DH. Last night DS woken every hour and was suffering with trapped wind. He woke crying and took a lot of leg cycling, infacol etc etc to get back off to sleep, whereupon he'd wake up again an hour later.
DH says he doesn't hear him. I don't believe him and am starting to be resentful.
We both work hard running our own business, I've had no maternity leave (was working when on hospital having DS) and I'm worn down. I work from home as it's easier for naps etc and DH works at the workshop but I'm so tired.
DH has hinted about DS moving into his own room. I'm reluctant until he's sleeping better as what's the point? It's me getting up all the time and I'm buggered if I'm traipsing across the hall all night.
Rant, rant. Sorry.
How do you stop being resentful?
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Colabottle10 · 30/01/2017 06:36
I can't answer about how to stop being resentful as my DH was really supportive but moving DS into his room made a HUGE difference to his sleep. He was also BF, up maybe 3+ times a night and so like you I thought, "What's the point?" but between moving him and some sleep training (he was 9 months old) his sleep improved dramatically. Obviously the Sleep training helped but I think there's a lot to be said for putting them in their own room.
You have my sympathies OP as feeling exhausted is just awful and makes life seem very miserable at times 
Oh OP - it sounds so hard.
My DH moved into the spare room when our EBF baby was 4 months old because co-sleeping was the only way I'd get any sleep but prior to that DH would get up at every night feed to change the nappy and do the winding. He said DS was just as much his baby as mine and that he was going to share all responsibilities.
My son's sleep patterns between 6-9 months were unbearable and I was in a very bleak place. The only way he'd sleep is if he was fed to sleep and he'd be awake 3-4 times every night, sometimes being awake for over an hour, and if a breast feed didn't get him off to sleep I was screwed. I was exhausted and in tears most days from lack of sleep. I used to ring my husband at work and beg him to come home because I couldn't cope and I needed sleep. I was probably getting about 5 hours sleep (broken sleep) in a 24 hour period and I just couldn't continue.
When he was 6-7 months old it wasn't too bad as breast feeding him would get him back to sleep (even though he'd still be up about an hour later) but as he got nearer 8-9 months old the breast feeding didn't work anymore and he'd be awake for hours and hours. Life was awful.
You absolutely need a night off - your husband is being incredibly unfair to you. You need a rest. Get expressing and go and spend the night in the spare room. Everyone has s breaking point and if you don't take care of yourself you're going to hit yours very soon
I hope it makes you feel better by saying this but in all honesty I don't think any parent knows what they are doing, they just wing it! Everybody has a bad day/night/week/month but some people darent admit it as they either like to cover over the cracks (then suffer a major melt down!) or pretend to be super parents.....
I have days where I feel like I've cracked this baby business then the next day, BOOM! He throws a curveball and I sit with him wondering what they heck to try next!
If you haven't already, read (when you get a spare minute!!!!) hurrah for gin - it puts it all into perspective. Even if you only manage a page a day, it will bring a smile to your face 
and 
for you,
DH is taking the piss but you're letting him get away with it. You need to have a frank talk and tell him to pull his weight. Decide exactly what you want him to do and don't back down from it. It's really not fair that you're both working full-time and he's doing sod all.
You will all sleep much better when DS is in his own room, so get that sorted asap.
You have done incredibly well with the BF, give yourself a massive pat on the back for that. You've given your baby the very best start in life.
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