boredom

[Missyb15]

Not sure if this is on the right thread but here goes...I'm mostly a sahm but work weekends. During the week i get incredibly bored and spend a lot of time on the internet/sat down (i've put on a stone in the last year!) and i don't tend to get dressed until lunchtime. I wouldn't say i'm depressed, but i really struggle with the lack of structure and even when i try and give myself a little routine it never lasts long as i get sucked into doing something online- and with the lack of any repercussions (like being late for work or having to be somewhere) routines go out the window most of the time. my dd is 2 and is thriving so my boredom doesn't seem to be translating across to her thankfully. we do try and leave the house once a day at least, which i manage MOST of the time but it's the boredom of being a sahm (sorry to all the working mums :( i really don't mean to cause offence with this and do understand other peope will feel differently) that's getting to me. anyone in the same boat?? im starting to think there's something wrong with me....sorry this is so long :( :(

[LexieLulu]

I'm on maternity leave, and I fully get you. I've been trying to ensure I'm dressed by 9am (mainly cause I ink my postman is judging me ha). I go to local church playgroups twice a week, my eldest is in nursery a day, and I do something like go to the zoo at the weekend.

Have a weekly plan calendar, rather than waiting for something to happen, make plans. Change your routine. Only you can prevent boredom x

[Missyb15]

thankyou lexie you're right- only i can change it. today is a write off already, well i feel it is anyways- only just got dressed but at least we're going to a friends house this afternoon.

I hope the boredom eases for you too x

[LexieLulu]

It's hard tho, I fully understand the boredom. This morning has been a bit of a write off in our house too, so getting ready to go out now.

Sometimes toddlers don't cooperate xx

[Caterina99]

Yes I'm a sahm to a 18m old. Find it very dull. Just the same tedious tasks over and over again, interspersed with tantrums and the same toys, books and cartoons constantly. For me, getting out and meeting others is the only thing that keeps me sane. I plan a playdate of some kind for every day if possible so I have other people (mostly other sahms) to talk to. Even getting out of the house doesn't really cut it for me. Chasing a toddler round the park alone is not fun in my opinion and you know your life is boring when going to the supermarket is the highlight of your day.

[Caterina99]

Forgot to say, some friends seem more happy to just hang out at home, or have family and other commitments so I have to actively chase people and make plans. Be proactive! Most people are happy to meet up, they just don't think to organize it

[MoreThanUs]

Wow - you must have a very placid toddler to be able to sit down so much! Parenting a toddler is often so physical - walks etc, as well as still lifting / carrying them a lot.
I think you need to have higher expectations of yourself. Getting out every day should be a minimum. There are groups, storytimes, walks, playgrounds, ponds, farms etc to go to. I'd get an annual membership for one place and use it weekly to get your money's worth.
Then you bump into people, then you plan to meet up with them and then you broaden your horizons again by doing something they suggest.
There is something for everyone. I'm not a soft play lover, so went for more outdoorsy things. Other people go for a more crafty focus.
This will be a much more stimulating life for your toddler too. Of course there are still mundane tasks, but the rest of the time you should be too busy to be bored!