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Clingy baby 6 months won't go to parents or MIL(3 Posts)
Just wanted to see if anyone else has had issues with passing their little ones to family members and they scream the house down like you are trying to kill them!??
I'm not sure if it's related but I tried to do a KIT day at work about a month ago and left my DS with my mum and step dad. They decided to take him to lakeside just before xmas - I did think this was a bad move but left them to it. I left my DS and put him straight in their car and off they went I didn't have a txt or was known of any issues my mum just said he was a little challenging but was ok. This was the first time I have left him properly and I was quite upbeat about being back at work. Well at 2pm I got a phone call from my step dad my baby screaming in the background then saying I need to come home they thought he was ill he had been screaming basically the whole time they had him! I was beside myself flew to my mums and there was no consoling my baby. I ended up in a & e and doc said everything was fine he had bit of a sore throats prob from all the crying! A few days later my MIL looked after him for a couple of hours and before I left he was inconsolable again but she demanded that she would be ok and I was to go out. I did and by the time I got back he was ok but saw me and cried. I don't really get on with my MIL and not sure if my DS picks up on this but since this has all happened he won't go near my MIL and does not like my step dad! Do you think this has something to do with me leaving? I feel like I can't ask anyone to look after him because of him being so clingy. I have heard it's just a phase but my MIL wants to meet and tbh I just can't be bothered with the hassle of my DS crying inconsolably. She is very full on that's half her problem she is in his face the moment she sees him and he doesn't like it. We had a nightmare over xmas! Thanks for reading would be nice to know I'm not the only one in this situation and any advice would be appreciated
My DD was like that from birth. She wouldn't even stay with DH without howling, it was very difficult! Things got a bit better when she got to 9 months but she would only stay a short while with people she knew. By 18 months she managed a couple of hours at crèche but after a two week settling in period. She did eventually grow out of it and if it's any consolation she never run off as a toddler because she was still glued to me.
DS2 cried if anyone else held him for about 3 months. Then he would go to DP for short amounts of time. He cried when friends or family held him. Luckily I had 12 months maternity and he was much better by then. He's still only been left with DP and twice with MIL for about an hour each time. He's 17 months now and getting better all the time.
It really depends on your situation as to what I'd do. I'm just waiting it out till he's ready. DP has him if I'm at work or out. It does mean we haven't had a night out together for a while but neither of us are too bothered.
If you have to get him used to being left I would start small, 15 minutes working up to an hour, then maybe an afternoon. I think some babies just need more reassurance than others and it takes them a bit longer.
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