Disciplining of a small child

[Nip]

I've just read a similar thread and its reminded me about my DS and my worries.

He is 10mos and has just started mis-behaving - for example if you go to change his nappy he'll flip over and try to crawl away - he wiggles so much sometimes i have to let him just do it - then get him back onto his back.

What do you do to stop this? It's getting a little out of hand and he finds it funny. We have laid him back on his back and said "no" in a stern manner but he just giggles and does it again.

Obviously i dont expect him to understand but we dont know what to do. Will he grow out of this or will it get worse?

[Nip]

Bump - Oh please dont tell me i've killed my own thread!

[Dophus]

DS1 does this all the time - he's now 2 and still doing it if he's feeling playful (or in little sod mode).

I just go for brute force and a badly put on nappy.

Sorry no help!

[Hulababy]

I don't think there is anything more you can do at 10 months. He isn't being naughty, he is just exploring his environment and learning. He will probably get worse for while, and then grow out of it.

[Nip]

I've even ended up putting a nappy on backwards - just to get the ordeal over!!! I'm glad its not just me though! Thanks

[colditz]

He won't get it, he will do it no matter what you do. Have you tried pull ups, so he can stand while you do most of it?

I do know how it is, I have a 10 month old boy myself. and he tries to flip over while I wipe poo off his behind...

[paulaplumpbottom]

I agree with Hulababy, he isn't being bad so you shouldn't really disapline him.

[Mumpbump]

It takes two of us to change ds' nappy most of the time. Dh holds him down by his chest or arms and I change the nappy. He still wriggles and twists and can lift his whole body off the floor! If I'm by myself, I end up chasing him around the room. A good tactic is to put something they want/like somewhere so they have to stand up to get it, then put the nappy on whilst they're standing and concentrating on whatever the object is.

[Nip]

Thanks everyone - i was just worried that by letting him do it i was "making a rod for my own back" if you know what i mean.

[tortoiseSHELL]

at 10 months you can con them by giving them something interesting to hold - a shampoo bottle usually does the trick for us! Then if you're quick, you can get the nappy off and on before they've thought about it!

[oliveoil]

put the nappy mat on the floor and put the tv on

go oooooooooooooooooooh look Annoying Man From Boogie Beebies is on etc etc

work fast whilst he is distracted

[Nip]

I have to admit that DS is spending more and more time when we are at home without a nappy on because of this... (but what i havent told DH is that the wet patches that i blame on the cat are actually DS!) LOL - Cat gets the blame for everything!

[Dophus]

MY dear little boy (2yo) is also obsessed with his winky. It keeps him still whilst I'm changing him (soem fo the time) but a challenge when tryign to get him to leave it alone when it's covered in pooh.

I never realised they could stretch that far !

[KathyMCMLXXII]

We had a similar problem with dd which actually we solved by getting a changing table - we had always just changed her on the floor at home but noticed that she didn't wriggle so much when we changed her when we were out.
Sounds crazy but it worked!

[Nip]

Thanks Kathy - but unfortunately we use a changing table and he can total turn - then try to dive off it!
We tried it on the floor too - but thats just as much of a disaster... by the looks of things from the comments on here - i'll let him do it enjoy him being funny!

[Nip]

sorry for my awful typing!

[KathyMCMLXXII]

changing table with harness? You could nail it on.

[liquidclocks]

Nip - I really don't think it's discipline that gets the good behaviour at this age - distraction works better. I used my keks and a bracelet I had that DS1 liked when I changed his nappy - it wasn't something he was normally allowed to play with so he was happy and stayed still just long enough!

The use of the word 'no' gets loads of different responses from parent IME - I had a friend who tried to tell me her 2 year old didn't understand it once! What I've always done with DS1 and will do with DS2, is just to say no whenever they're doing something I don't want them to do and eventually they catch on what it means and as long as you don't make it funny and put on your 'stern' voice it won't become a game. By about 12 months DS1 knew he wasn't allowed to crawl into the fireplace or push the buttons on the dvd player so it must have been understood on some level

[mankyscotslass]

When mine got to this stage i just chucked the changing table and did their nappies on my knee....Dh still does it on the floor when he has to change the babies bum, but always tries to give hime something to hold..usually something i would prefer him not to have!!.....and yes, it all goes down hill from this stage....

[liquidclocks]

errm, not my knickers, sorry! - keys !

[Lazycow]

I haven't changed ds lying down since he was 9 months old (he's 2.2 yrs old now). I just changed him standing up as soon as he could stand- always have as the alternative was just too much stress. It makes changing him while we are out very easy as I don't need to have somewhere to lie him down.

He still wriggles though and the worst thing is when he kneels down - Standing is one thing but changing him when he kneels down with his bum on his heels is impossible . He is better when we are out though and he stands still- not sure why.

[lady007pink]

I changed my DS and DD1 on my knee when they got to that stage, or if their bums were badly soiled I'd wash them under the bath shower attachment.

[clairemow]

LOL at Liquidclock's knickers being used as a distraction!!

This is so normal - I remember chasing DS1 round the room to get his nappy off/on. I found singing sometimes worked. I also used to give him his milk on his changing mat while I did his nappy after his nap and first thing in the morning - he'd drink it lying down. Kept him still til he'd finished drinking, and kept his hands off his willy for at least 2 nappy changes a day... Before you all tell me how unhygenic that is, he's not had any tummy upsets or anything like that...!

[sweetkitty]

With DD2 it's Twinkle Twinkle or Wheels on the Bus she likes doing the actions. Otherwise give them the Sudocreme to hold or if nothing works leg over their torso so they can't go anywhere.

[CorrieDale]

It gets worse! We've gone through books, singing, more books, special changing table only toys, shouting (only did it once when suffering morning sickness - it doesn't work BTW), turning him so he's facing the boring wall. Now we're on challenges. Such as belts that he can try to 'do up', bows to tie or untie, chains that link, and I'm on the look out for some little padlocks to which I can attach several keys. He's 20 months and has absolutely no interest in potty training. Unlike his harassed mother.