My daughter is 12 days old. BFing generally every couple of hours during the day but this week cluster feeding hourly from 6pm-midnight ish.
Until a few days ago she would settle in her sleepyhead in the side sleeper crib for up to 3 hours which was manageable. Over the last couple of days she has become incredibly clingy...we are currently stuck in a cycle of: feed for average 30 mins every couple of hours during day, she falls asleep at the breast without fail. I then try & get a little wind up, put her in her swaddle & set her down in her (pre-warmed with a hot water bottle) sleepyhead. She stays asleep for a max of 10 mins before pinging awake. We have set the sleepyhead at a slight incline as she seems to love falling asleep upright on us or in a squished up crook of an arm. She takes a dummy for a bit, but I'm reluctant to use it too much whilst we're still in the early days of breastfeeding.
Desperation for sleep overnight has led us to propping ourselves up on the sofa wth her asleep on us which we do not want to continue for obvious SIDS risk reasons, and it's not sustainable.
My question is : am I expecting too much for a 12 day old? I'd be ecstatic if she slept in the sleepyhead/crib for 3 hour stretches through the night. Is she too young to make sleep associations or am I already on the road to sleep hell by allowing this to happen? I remember seeing posters on the maternity ward saying 'you can't spoil a baby with too many cuddles' yet all the books I've read (Baby Whisperer, No Cry Sleep Solution etc) seem to thing the earlier start the better & say not to let them fall asleep on you. she just loves being held. She will sit in her bouncy chair for a max of 10 mins if she's not hungry before she starts getting irritated.
I'm so confused, and I'm crying every time she gets upset. I want to enjoy this newborn stage but I can feel my mood & mindset declining the longer this continues.
Am I expecting too much? Does anyone know when they start making sleep associations?
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Am I expecting too much from a 12 day old?
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RD82 · 03/01/2017 19:55
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