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My 6yo Just Told Me He Doesn't Want To Be Alive - Help!

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clarkness Fri 23-Dec-16 21:58:34

This is my first post, so apologies if this is in the wrong place etc.

I have 3 boys - 11yo (shared custody with his Dad), 10yo (my stepson, shared custody with his Mum) and a 6yo. Oldest is autistic, so our home life and opportunity to socialise isn't the same as 'normal' families. We don't have a car and are very limited financially. We live above awful neighbours who make our lives hell and due to embarrassment about that, how some kids may react to my eldest and his behaviour and how untidy my flat is, we haven't had any of his friends over to play. I don't really know any of his friends at school's parents to invite people over. I'll be honest, I have anxiety and depression and probably haven't been making as much of an effort in every day life as I should.

He always complains about bedtime and I think he's worse on days where his brothers aren't here (only a Friday and we try and do fun activities). He's been upset about going to school recently but his teachers say he's fine in school. He cried at bedtime and said he was sad but didn't know why. I tried to talk to him and he said he's sad we don't get to go out to play any more, which I explained is because of the weather. I said if there were times when he was bored or sad to come and talk to me and we could try and find something fun to do. He gave me a cuddle but then cried again and told me he doesn't want to be alive any more. I held it together in front of him, but I was bawling afterwards.

My husband says he says dramatic stuff to get a reaction (he can exaggerate a bit as he likes to tell stories but doesn't tell lies). I'm completely crushed and don't know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice/similar expereience?

Heirhelp Sat 24-Dec-16 08:35:39

At this time of year littles are exhausted. Did you ask him why he did not want to be alive?

I would speak to HV and GP for professional advice. Can you use the time when you only have time to 'love bomb' him or allow him to have a friend over the play.

Heirhelp Sat 24-Dec-16 08:36:20

Sorry just read the thing about fun activities. Do you think he misses his brother when they are not there?

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