This is a "what would you do?" scenario.
Let me preface by saying, 2 year old DD has never had great sleep. When she was a baby we tried sleep training (gently and inconsistently) but when things got difficult she always breastfed to sleep in our bed. After the age of 1, she started sleeping horizontally and kicked DH throughout the night until he had neck problems, so we started putting her to sleep in our bed but then moving her across to the cot when she fell asleep. She continued to wake 1-2 times per night, when either the nanny would get up and pat her back to sleep in her cot, or me/DH would bring her into our bed (we both work long hours so there's only a certain amount of night-time crying we can tolerate).
Since she turned 2 several weeks ago, we've been putting her to sleep in her own cot. Routine thus:
- Shower/bath.
- Nappy and pyjamas.
- Milk.
- Cuddles and book.
- Brush teeth.
- More cuddles and book.
- When DD agrees, DD goes into cot.
- Patting and singing for 30-60-120 mins until DD falls asleep.
She doesn't cry during this routine, it's all very peaceful, but we are NOT ALLOWED TO LEAVE THE ROOM at any point or all hell breaks loose.
Last night I patted her for 1.5 hours before I got fed up and left. She had a melt-down. DH then went in and patted her for another half hour before she fell asleep.
I hear rumours of children who fall asleep in 20 mins after a cuddle and a story. I'd be happy for her to do this. How do I make her do this please.