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I just LOST it at my kids....

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lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 18:00:30

I spent ages today making a homemade lasagne. I am a crap cook and was really proud of it. DC1 took one look at it and said he didn't like it. Finally agreed to try a bit and then made a face like he was going to vomit and spat it on to his plate. Cue DC2 copying - also claimed not to like it and swept his bowl on to the ground before I could stop him. Whole thing splattered all across the floor. I literally screamed like a mad woman. DC1 ran away and DC2 burst in to tears. I scared myself, I'm not surprised I scared them. Feel so shit now. I've apologised to them both and gave them a cuddle but am shocked at my own temper. Kids are quite happy and watching TV now but I'm convinced I must have traumatised them in some way.

Brontebiscuits Fri 18-Nov-16 18:02:04

bloody hell I would have done the same! You'll be more traumatised than them! what are they?

anyname123 Fri 18-Nov-16 18:04:02

I'd scream too, ungrateful little blighters! I'm sure you've not done any long term damage wine

Brontebiscuits Fri 18-Nov-16 18:04:50

that meant to say what age are they?

Lookinatu Fri 18-Nov-16 18:05:39

This was kind of me the other week I made a homemade lasagne with homemade pasta and a homemade garlic bread and a lovely salad I was sooooo proud. As I was plating it up ds came in and said I don't want that before even trying. angry

Janey50 Fri 18-Nov-16 18:09:02

No YANBU at all! I probably would have done the same. Never mind YOU apologising to THEM,THEY should be apologising to YOU. How old are they btw?

lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 18:11:08

They are 2.5 and 4.5. Also I made shed loads of it... WIBU to just serve it up again on Sunday?

WellErrr Fri 18-Nov-16 18:11:25

Id have done the same.

lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 18:11:47

I've got some wine now

WellErrr Fri 18-Nov-16 18:12:19

I'm not saying it's the right thing to do - but we all lose it sometimes.

And they were seriously rude.

lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 18:12:30

Just for clarity, I didn't scream words, I just screamed, a really long loud scream.

OhSuckItUpDucky Fri 18-Nov-16 18:15:03

You very controlled considering

OohhThatsMe Fri 18-Nov-16 18:15:09

To be honest, it's not always worth it to spend hours making something for young children, if they're not keen on new tastes. You put so much effort in and when it's rejected it's inevitable you take it as a personal affront.

A four year old is too old to be sweeping plates off the table - that was really naughty, I think.

margaritasbythesea Fri 18-Nov-16 18:18:45

Sorry but your last post OP made me laugh.

I've done things like this a fair few times. It's not great but I also think they have to know you have feelings too. It's one of the reasons good behaviour is important.

Cranb0rne Fri 18-Nov-16 18:24:36

I have to admit that I've done the same, it's so effing frustrating when you put all that effort in.

LynetteScavo Fri 18-Nov-16 18:32:19

In years to come when they're adults they will look back and laugh at the time they spat their food out and Mum screamed.

flamingnoravera Fri 18-Nov-16 18:49:36

You are human. Mums get screamy sometimes when children spit food she has lovingly cooked for them, forgive yourself, you are human. You apologised, they have seen you vulnerable and they have seen you take responsibility for your actions and apologise.
But throw the rest away, they are not likely to eat it tomorrow either.

lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 18:58:52

Oh thanks lynettescavo that is a good way to put it in perspective! Instead of imagining them in therapy in years to come talking about how their problems with lasagne all began when mummy screamed like a crazy woman. It was the 2 year old that threw his on the ground but yes totally naughty. DH is home now and I've had some wine and can sightly see the funny side. Only slightly.

bigmouthstrikesagain Fri 18-Nov-16 19:06:44

Don't stress it op, it happens! I regularly felt like losing my shit at mealtimes when the dc were small. I think I threw a plate of rejected food at the well once, probably while yelling incomprehensibly!blush the older two dc would have been the same age as your two plus a 6mo at the time. Meals were a stressy battlefield and we all got tense and there would be shouting or defiance at times. I resented the lack of appreciation and the kids just wanted the meals they liked.

Ds is awful around food, but he is now a strapping 12 yo doing brilliantly at school. He hated pretty much everything I gave him aside from an extremely narrow range of very bland meals. He certainly did not give a shit if I slaved over a meal for hours. But his food issues are not to do with my cooking or parenting he is autistic and has massive sensory issue over taste, texture and food touching other food. I have learned to provide the meals he will eat and mealtimes are now harmonious.

Don't put up with chucking food around, that behaviour should have a consequence, but give yourself a break and don't take the kids opinions to heart. They have no idea what constitutes a good meal at age 2 and 4.flowerswine

whowouldknow Fri 18-Nov-16 19:18:14

Enjoy ur wine and don't worry about it. I felt so guilty for shouting at my ds when he was very young (put him in the garden blush ) - but he seems completely oblivious wine

Embolio Fri 18-Nov-16 19:33:55

wine I've found that, on a scale of frozen pizza to slow cooked cassserole, the amount of effort and love put into a meal is inversely proportional to the amount the offspring consume. The swine.

lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 20:09:20

It's true embolio. They will basically eat fish fingers, pasta, filled pasta, chicken goujons and scrambled eggs. The more homemade it is the more likely they are to reject it. We also threw away a homemade chicken pie earlier this week because it has TINY slivers of leek in it which it turns out is akin to poison.

lovealatte Fri 18-Nov-16 20:09:54

Oh and cheese pizza and ham sandwiches.

DuggeeSchmuggee Fri 18-Nov-16 20:21:02

This happened to me a few months ago. Made a nice lasagne, DS spat it all out and told me it was disgusting. I went into a silent rage, popped him in front of the telly, scraped the white sauce off his plate and told him that I'd made him bolognase and pasta instead (his favourite). He fell for it! grin

littleoctonauts Fri 18-Nov-16 20:36:51

It happens sometimes you've apologized, and they won't be scarred by it. Just give lots of extra cuddles today and tomorrow to reassure themsmile

I'm surprised how many are saying Chuck itsad repackage it as Duggee suggests if you can, or why can't the adults eat it? Can you freeze lasagne? Any homeless ppl near you, you could put it in takeaway tubs. We chuck so much food in this country it really is a shame..

I've also learned the hard way, never spend ages on a home cooked meal 'especially for the kids'. You just end up disappointed more often than not. Something new I'd cook in a smaller amount.

Don't lose heart in cooking from scratch, just maybe keep it simplewink

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