Hello all,
We (grandparents) have just helped daughter wean her 2 and half year old toddler from breastfeeding. Daughter was exhausted from 2hourly feeds all night long - for years! - and every attempt to cut down night feeds failed. Toddler has been eating solids since 6 months and drinks from a bottle and cup too, likes milk from a bottle. It is purely about comfort and closeness.
Now been a week since breastfeeding stopped. Toddler still dreadfully upset, crying self to sleep every night, genuinely seems heartbroken and traumatised.
Most young people we know seem to stop feeding within 6 months to a year, but
looking online for support on post weaning upset I came across reams of forums and bloggers talking about how it's wrong to stop breastfeeding before the child is ready and accepts it, even if that means feeding till they're as old as 6 or 7!
This seems mad to me? What about the mum? What about getting her life back? What about the child being mocked or bullied for still breastfeeding after 2 and a half years? Not to mention the practicalities - how can child sleepover with friends? Or other family? How can mum go away for a night?
Would be really interested in hearing what other mumsnetting breastfeeding mums do about weaning.
When do you think it's appropriate (barring obvious reasons like illness for example)? Do you think it should be left to the child?
Did you do it against your child's wishes, and how did they cope afterwards?
Did they get over it eventually?!
Know it sounds silly but it is all so traumatic at the mo that we're considering abandoning the attempt and letting her go back on the breast for a bit longer, but after a whole week without this may be a terrible decision.
Please share your stories?
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Weaning breastfed toddler - post traumatic stress!!
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Binkysays · 15/11/2016 11:31
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