I have an eleven-year-old who I have raised as a totally single parent from birth. Two years ago, I met a lovely man who is a wonderful stepfather figure to my son. Recently, I have got an overwhelming urge to have another baby. I'd love my son to have a brother or a sister and also to experience the joy and wonder of parenthood with the man I love. He is just not interested in having kids though. This is especially frustrating when he shows so much kindness, nurturing and appreciation towards / of my son. He says kids are cute and he's sure that having your own is a great experience but it just doesn't appeal to him. I am sad for him, because although it sounds condescending, I think it is really upsetting that he might never get to experience parenthood when he would be so good at it and I know he would love it. I have considered ending the relationship, but I love him so much (as does my son) and there's no guarantee I'll even meet someone who I want to have a child with, let alone go on to conceive if I do. I think I just have to be grateful for my boyfriend and my son and try to get over this, but the broodiness is all-consuming: I dream about babies, I ache with it when I am around friends' babies (of which there are many) and the other day, when I heard a very young baby crying, I felt a tingling in my nipples like I needed to breastfeed. Parenting my son is the best thing I have ever done and the thought that I will never experience that again makes me feel very sad. I don't know why I am writing this here, probably just in an attempt to make myself feel a bit better. Anyone else facing / faced a similar scenario?
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I desperately want a baby but my boyfriend doesn't.
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AlrightMum · 06/11/2016 14:16
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