I have a just turned 2 year old (and a 13 week old). The 2 year old was a much longed for baby, we tried for him for a year and miscarried along yet he way, I was so excited to have him.
He was born after a 48 hour labour and I was exhausted by the time he arrived. He then turned out to be a bad sleeper, a huge feeder and I was permanently exhausted. He also screamed all day long and I found his early months very tough, didn't sleep one full night ever until he was 1. Weaning was another horrific few months, he wouldn't eat anything and still breastfed up to 12 times a day.
I have no family nearby and my husband works long hours, we did go out a lot, but he was a very difficult baby and I had no help or reprieve from him at all.
As time has gone on, he has blossomed into a lovely and intelligent little boy, but he annoys the absolute shit out of me. I feel like his whole life has been mostly stressful, interspersed with a few months here and there of pleasant calm.
I don't know if this is due to his not sleeping, screaming etc, but I'm constantly worried about my bond with him. He screams as soon as he wakes up in the morning and mostly whinges all day long. I wake up stressed because he has fucked me off with the screaming from the off.
He naps for about 2 hours daily, but again, always wakes up screaming. The bliss of the peace, completely shattered and I'm immediately stressed again.
In amongst all this, I have had another baby, who has only served to amplify how difficult he was as a baby, and how different it could (or should??) have been.
How can I rescue this? Has anyone else experienced this? I feel like I can't cope with my feelings towards him (but similarly I know I'm tired and he is being a pain at the moment so I'm not really in my right 'place' either!
Sorry it's so muddled!!
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Luckystar1 · 03/11/2016 15:30
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