AIBU Children's new school

[Frazzledmum1977]

Would just like some perspective on these issues please. I will try and be brief.
DD4 started reception and DS3 (recently diagnosed on autistic spectrum) started nursery both at same time in September. We didn't get the school we wanted where DD went to nursery.

Issues with DD
not getting note for 48 hours regarding bump to head in playground

dd telling me, to have a baby you have a wedding, kiss and cuddle and lay on the floor!!

getting a red letter for poor attendance due to having 5 days off for holiday (DH has fixed holidays and couldn't have any time off during the summer hols) All the children and parents could see each others colour coded letter at pick up.

But my main issues are regarding ASD DS
School attended meeting with paed and clin. psych at hospital and indicated they may not be able to cope with him but would try.
He had his settling in visits in May. The part time teacher (job share) said "his attention span is none existent" and "having to change his soiled nappy was most unpleasant" Nothing positive at all. When I asked the other part time teacher about her comments "she said don't worry about her, she's old school"
Fast forward to now.
They give him star of the week because he keeps asking for it every week and he's cute.
They are not filling in his communication book every day.
The state of his clothes when he comes home eg wet and dirty.
They don't seem geared up to dealing with ASD. He has a great memory. They think he knows the alphabet but he is doing it by memory and not because he understands what he is saying.
DH overheard little boy in playground telling his Mum "that's xxxx he's really naughty and pushed people" School said there isn't an issue.

We have questioned whether there are coping and when can we have a meeting with educational psych to commence getting an EHCP. We are just getting fobbed off with "it takes time"

Now a couple of the staff are being very frosty with us.

Other issues are: the two part time teachers don't seem to communicate with each other. Communication from school is poor. Website not updated since July. Homework book is just stamped "seen".

Am I being unreasonable and does this all stem from the fact I am still cheesed off from not getting the school I wanted or I am right to be bothered about all this.

I should add the kids are happy

Thank you

[Frazzledmum1977]

Bump.
i would really like people's opinions
xxx

[firsttimemothergoose]

I'm no expert with ASD but it doesn't sound good to me. I'm sure someone
Else will be able to help you with that BUT
48 hours for a bump to the head is NOT acceptable. Ask, politely! To speak to the safeguarding person and explain that this could have been very dangerous for your child and very damaging for the school! You must be told the same day but usually a phone call home when it happens so that you can watch them overnight for signs of concussion.

My advice would be to keep smiling and keep the door of communication open, if they are frosty with you now, make sure it doesn't get worse.

[CalleighDoodle]

Why would you care what other people thought about your child's attendance? Also, if your husband has fixed holidays and can prove that, did you apply for holiday? In this case it should have been authorised absence.

I cant imagine the ot teachers would communicate as they wont work on the same days surely??

Have you taken your list and had a meeting with the head?

[SquawkFish]

I have no experience with ASD or having children, but I think if you are feeling uncomfortable about things you should maybe look into other options.

I will say that school should have informed you immediately, or at the very latest, about the bump on the head due to head injury risk. You should have had a letter explaining things to look out for. I would be speaking to someone regarding that ASAP if it's happened recently.

Sorry, that isn't much help

[Heirhelp]

Some things like the holidays and what your DD said I don't think are issues either is your son pushing somebody once.

The bump on the head letter 48 hours late is not acceptable either are some of the things the older teacher is saying. How dirty are the clothes? If he is not physically comfortable then there is no problem.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

You can request an EHCP yourself by writing to the LA the template letter you need is on //www.IPSEA.org. There are deadlines and so it will force the issue regardless as to whether the school plans on waiting.
Some of your worries seem quite niggly but that's most likely because you are stressed. Get support from IPSEA or SOSSEN and get the support you need for your son.

[insan1tyscartching]

OMG flipping internet, sorry for multiple posts

[NotCitrus]

Have you spoken to the SENCO? What does ds and dd think of the school - are they happy as far as you can tell? Are there TAs in the classes? They may be more helpful re wet clothing and getting new ones on your ds.

The letter re attendance will be automatically generated - ignore.

I would ask about procedures for head bump communication, but could be they have to give you a letter for any head-relatwd injury but if it's no risk of concussion like a small bruise on the chin or cheek, it wasn't a priority.

Hard to say whether they are being unreasonable or not - homework should be low key, diaries don't normally need writing in daily, but if you've been told it will be, eg if ds isn't verbal, then it should happen. If send an email to 'clarify' what communication you've been told to expect and what adjustments ds should be getting, and take it from there. Send notes round after all meetings.