This post comes as a result of my own guilt I guess and a comment made by an older lady this afternoon.
I work part-time in a crappy, demanding job with colleagues who act like bullies, not much towards me anymore, but others. I hate the negativity and find the job soul destroying tbh.
On my days off with my toddler, I've been feeling completely exhausted particularly since he has begun having tantrums. I'm used to trying to squeeze in toddler activities and meet-ups with other friends and toddlers to keep him occupied on my days off. However, DS would just have huge tantrums and I'd feel exhausted by all of the noise of childrens play areas and constant chatter about potty training etc etc.
I now do just one toddler activity per week with other mums and spend the rest of the time either at home with DS, going for a walk or pottering around the shops. I've felt much much calmer and rested as a result.
Today, I took DS out for lunch to an old fashioned tea room in the centre of town. It was v quiet, but DS is always well behaved when he has sandwiches and cake! No dishes for me, a restful trip out and enjoyable 1:1 time with DS.
The waitress seemed surprised when I said I needed a table for just DS and I and there were a few snooty women sitting around the table next to us. One of them commented that DS was being very well behaved but said "I'd bet you'd much prefer to be playing some here noisy and having fun with your friends though wouldn't you."
I may be taking this too seriously and sensitively but I left the tea room feeling really guilty that I've become quite self indulgent on my days off with DS. Should I be doing more child friendly activories with him and other children? Or is one activity a week enough? We don't have any other children in the immediate family so he doesn't see other children at home, however he goes to nursery on the days I work. How much stuff does everyone else do on their days off with DCS?
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Days at home with toddler: how self-indulgent are we allowed to be?
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Lilybugbrain · 22/09/2016 14:07
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