My dh hasn't bonded with our dd. he works a long way away (something we know we need to change but easier said than done) and when he is at home he feels his time is precious and doesn't want to waste it doing things he doesn't like. Being with dd falls into this catagory. He says he wants to want to spend time with her but he always feels like now is not the right time.... I have tried to force the issue but end up with a resentful dh and a distressed dd if I throw them together. when I try to do things as a family he always manages to do all the hands off stuff.
She has feeding "issues" so its not easy for him or anyone else to feed her. he can't get her to sleep, she just cries for me. He has a bad back so he can't do bath time and he finds sitting on the floor to play with her uncomfortable......
he isn't used to babies (but then again nor was I) in fact his family are a bunch of baby haters! he has been brought up to believe that having a crying baby in a public place is unacceptable and inconsiderate!! so I am having to work against years of indoctrination. He thinks everything will be ok when she is older but what I am worried about is that by then dd and I will be so used to him living on the edge of our lives that it will be too late to let him back in.
I know I can't change things, it has to come from him, but if anyone has any helpful suggestions we would appreciate them. he isn't happy with the way things are at the moment and I don't know how to help.
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DH isn't bonding with DD (6 months) is there anything I can do to help them?
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entropy · 02/02/2007 13:54
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