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Reception teacher giving me info on parenting classes

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InionEile Wed 31-Aug-16 17:39:30

My son just started school and yesterday at a parent orientation night, his teacher came up to me and said 'You're [DS name]'s mum, right? We are running a parenting skills course this year that I'm facilitating and there are two spaces for parents in my class so I thought you should know about it' and handed me a leaflet with info on the class.

What do I make of this? DH has taken it as a sign that the teacher can't stand our son or thinks he has behavioral problems that are a result of our terrible parenting and is really offended. I felt offended too but am worried I'm overreacting. It seems so innocuous to just give a parent a leaflet on a parenting class but as far as I know I'm the only parent she gave this information to in our class and I can't think why, other than that she thinks I am struggling or doing a terrible job.

If she had come up to me and said DS has a specific issue in class that she thinks we could work on together or said something nice like 'You seem like a really motivated parent so here's some info on a parenting class' then I wouldn't feel so bad but as it happened it seemed so abrupt and negative.

I don't want to get off on the wrong foot with her early in the school year but equally I can't fathom why she would make negative assumptions about us as a family so early in the school year either. Ironically I actually facilitated a similar course for a parenting group I'm in a couple of years ago so I already know the material - clearly I am not implementing it well since she thinks I'm such a disaster... grin

Whynotnowbaby Wed 31-Aug-16 17:47:01

I would feel the same as you in that situation. Could you have a chat with her after school tomorrow and just ask if there is any particular issue she is concerned about which led her to suggest the classes. Say you are very happy to work with the school to resolve anything and possibly even mention that you have been involved in delivering these classes so know how valuable they are. Hopefully a quick chat will set your mind at rest.

InionEile Wed 31-Aug-16 18:02:14

Thanks Whynot. I plan to speak to her about it but am feeling upset right now so I want to make sure I'm in the right frame of mind and able to be constructive with her. I want to have a calm, rational conversation along the lines you suggest. Ultimately though I would just like to know what inspired her to make a beeline for me to give me the information compared to any other parent in the class!

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