Im desperate for advice(2 Posts)
I am the parent of a 10 year old boy who has ADHD, sensory processing disorder and emotional problems. He has always been aggressive, tells horrific lies and been very challenging. I was with his father for the first 3 years of his life and he left and moved in with another woman and contact has been minimal between them. This has been devastating for my son. I was on my own with my son for 4 years and it was hard but we had a good relationship.
3 years ago i met the man of my dreams and we are very much in love. He has two children and after 12 months he moved in with us and all was great. My son has slowly started wanting to have me to himself, he says i love my partner more than him and starts to be aggressive towards him and sometimes his children. This has gradually built to where my son started to make false allegations about my partner hitting him. None of them have been true at all but social care have been involved and its been traumatic. My son says he has hurt him but i don't believe him therefore i don't love him. Things finally came to a head last week, my son called the police and said my partner had punched him. My partner has left the home in fear he is going to lose contact with his own children as a result of this. I am dostraught, bit my partner is in bits and i fear may have a breakdown.
The police have dropped the investigation because my son told different versions of the story. My son is so angry and is saying he hates me and doesn't want me in his life and is.now with my mum. My son is saying he wants me to himself and will kill himself if i don't end the relationship with my partner. My partner is saying henever wants to see my son again. Ive got an emergency app with child.mental health next week.i pay for a private therapist for my son and he has social care involved due to his aggression.
My family are telling me i cant let my son control me and give into him and if that means he lives with my mum for good then so be it, otherwise he will try to control every aspect.of my life. But my son genuinely thinks.i love my partner more than him and i fear this will cause a lot of damage. My poor partner doesn't want to come between us but we love each other so much. Someone please help me!
It sounds like you are in a very difficult position. I am sorry that I don't have any advice but I am sure some one more helpful will be along soon. You may want to report your post and ask for it to be moved to the special needs board.
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