I am going to feel awful posting this but I'm hoping I'm not alone in having felt this way.
Firstly let me say I do love DD2 and couldn't bear the thought of anything happening to her and it feels so right being a family of four.
However I must admit I am finding things a bit difficult and frustrating and I guess I feel a little favouritism towards DD1?! DD1 is 18 months old.
DD2 is a cluster feeder so from 5 until DD1 goes to bed I basically have DD2 attached to breast. I enjoy getting DD1 ready for bed but the past couple of nights DD2 has "ruined" the fun fussing and crying until she is attached to me again. DD1 is very patient and doesnt seem to mind but I feel like I'm forever saying "watch your feet near baby" "don't stand on bed near baby" etc.
DD1 is a mummy's girl and we often cuddle but that can be difficult atm. We co sleep and giving her a cuddle in bed is one of my favourite parts of the day but at present I have baby attached to breast so cannot.
DD1 is easy to look after now. She is, confident, cheeky, independent and plays well while I tidy. Sleeps through. That took a while and I guess I've only just got used to it and now I'm back to breast feeling in the night again! I feel I can't really enjoy DD2 newborn stage because I just don't have proper time to enjoy it like I did with DD1 and I am looking forward to her turning a year old I guess when they can really start playing together and I get a little independence back.
DP is helpful but he is currently spending the evenings decorating our new home. This won't go on for long and I guess things will be a little easier then.
I don't know. This is a ramble. Does/did anyone else feel similar to this when baby 2 arrived. I really didn't think I would feel like this tbh. I knew it would be difficult having two under two and I thought knowing this would prepare myself for it. I just feel like I'm letting DD1 down a bit because she doesn't have my full attention anymore..
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finding it a bit difficult to accept baby 2
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justonesherryformedicinalpurpo · 17/08/2016 21:33
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