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BeakyFlapdoodle Thu 28-Jul-16 08:31:46

DH and I have been married for five years, together for 8. I was 21 when we met (pretty,slim,confident...) I'm now a
SAHM to our two year old and pregnant with our second.
Our life is fairly stressful. DH works very long hours and I'm at home all by myself, without any help from him or any family nearby. As far as I'm aware, our marriage is happy. We love each other. We enjoy being together.
Last night we were talking and he said to me 'I don't know why I stay married. What do I get out of it?'
And now I can't stop crying. He said he was joking. I can't forget about it. I just keep seeing myself as a 30yr old single mum with nowhere to live!
I'm worried that he sees himself as a young professional and that we're dragging him down.
He insists it was a joke. Am I just pregnant and over reacting? Literally can't stop wailing...!!

Flamingo1980 Thu 28-Jul-16 20:03:51

Did he say it in a joking way or was he serious and now back tracking?

Coconut0il Thu 28-Jul-16 23:19:37

Really depends how/why he said it. Was it part of a jokey conversation or a serious comment.
If he says it was a joke and your relationship is strong I would try to forget about it. Everything seems worse with pregnancy hormones flying all over the place too.

suspiciousofgoldfish Fri 29-Jul-16 07:23:36

This is why I like to keep a big stick handy at all times. Every time DH makes a moronic comment like this he gets a whack to the shins.

No, not really. But I do dream of doing this.

Sounds like your man needs a bit of a wake up call. I keep a list of everything I do to make DHs life easier, I haven't yet had to read it to him but it is useful to keep in my mind. It means I say 'no' to more stuff.

Your DH could do with hearing that list. And tell him about the stick idea.

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