Tit obsessed son driving me crazy(3 Posts)
I breastfed my son until he was about 2years and 8 months. It was very difficult getting him off the boob. He just loved the boobies beyond all measure.
Fast forward... I'm now 36 weeks pregnant, and he will be turning 4 in August, two weeks after the new baby arrives. I've tried to prepare him for the new arrival. The result has been an obsession with my boobs that is driving me to distraction.
The patriarchy has NOTHING on this child with objectifying my body.
He fondles, pretends to suck, and just generally harasses me at every feasible opportunity. We - nah, ME, have had plenty of conversations about what is private and what he should not touch, and I've yelled "leave my boobs alone" a million times, but to no avail.
This is the conversation our lovely family had last night:
Son: I love your boobies!
Husband: But remember, they are not your boobies.
Son: They are. They are MINE.
Daughter (6): Then why are they on mummy?
What can I do? I'm at the point of feeling that I don't want to breastfeed the new baby, because I cannot stand this obsession with my body and my bits?
He sounds like he is very jealous that the new baby will get to feed as he probably remembers it being really nice.
When I had my second child I did let the older one have a quick try at breastfeeding when he got jealous and he decided it wasn't that fun and never asked again however I hadn't had the issues weaning you had so that might not work.
Can you find some kind of distraction? So that when he starts going on you can move him onto something he enjoys doing. Sounds like he's getting a good reward of attention (even if it's shouting) for mentioning your boobs. Maybe you and husband could try ignoring him going on about it as much as possible. If he starts grabbing at you could you stand up and go to do something else so he can't reach anymore?
Then maybe make a big deal about how when the baby is having milk you will have a good opportunity for cuddles/reading stories/watching films with him?
It sounds really annoying
Not directly related to your problem but a BRILLIANT tip I received when I had my second was to croon at the baby about the older child. So rather than cooing "you're just the loveliest little baby ever", you say "
You've got the best big brother ever". The older child can understand the words, and the baby can understand the tone, so everyone is content.
I don't know if this would help but have you tried giving him some time with your boobs? It sounds like the more you say no, the more he wants it. If you gave him a visual count down timer, and two mins of booby time, it might help restrict the touching to a few times that you control, rather than having inappropriate touching all the time. I don't know, it's just a thought.
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