DS 2.7 just had a 47min tantrum?

[ninenicknames]

DS 2 years & 7.5months just had his record yet of tantrums. Over 45mins .....

Is that normal?

I was calm, tried the soft approach, he repeatedly hit me. I put him in time out, just carried on.

I then took myself away & then he just went on & on, fist thumping, screaming & yelling.

I'm done in

Is it normal? How does everyone else deal with tantrums that long & this age?

[T0ddlerSlave]

Usually by yelling at her then putting myself in time out

Often food/tv/story cd seems to help but sometimes they just need to tire themselves out and you're there to pick up the pieces.

[ninenicknames]

Ah! Yea I can't lie I did that too .... Yelled & then I put myself in the bathroom with the door closed.

I think you're right, it's like an expression they have to get out.

I prob still do the same at 39 ... except not in public

[TheAntiBoop]

Dd did this. Not fist thumping but crying with rage. I tried everything and found ignoring was the best strategy as anything else just prolonged the agony!

She is almost 6 now and can still do it - we had 25 mins today. Now it involves 'you need to say sorry to me' 'why do you get to tell me what to do' etc etc

I ignore and she eventually calms enough to ask for a hug which I give her and when she is calm she apologises willingly.

She never does it at school so we have a lot of chats about controlling her temper and how I know she can do it!!

[Peasandsweetcorn]

Well I don't know if it is normal, but my two certainly had a good few tantrums which lasted between 45 min and an hour. They're now 6& 4 and very well behaved so I like r think that my consistency paid off

[Mrstumbletap]

Yep definitely had a few long ones in this household. But generally now they are 5 mins. Thinking step works for us, so I just put him there and try to ignore as best I can, make a coffee put the radio on etc.

[gandalf456]

My 12 year old stopped about 6 and has recently started again. I agree attention fuels it but I also find that finding out the root cause is useful. With little ones, it's often down to being tired, hungry or frustrated when you say they can't have something and they don't understand why. If you think it's something like the last one, try talking in simple terms when he is calm (not point mid tantrum). Try to keep routine as much as possible in terms of sleep, food etc.

If your child is very intense, they can be long. I don't know if it's normal or not but I did have tantrums this long with mine - esp DD.

[ninenicknames]

I think I need to be more patient & let him get on with it, trying to calm him down makes him even more livid!

This actual episode was over me saying no to taking the glass kettle with a plug on outside to play in his sandpit!

Routine wise I am Gina Ford style, so he's always very much "in routine"

[EveryoneElsesMumSaidYes]

Mine was a pretty calm child
I found ignoring bad behaviour and rewarding good behaviour worked. He soon learnt that tantrums didn't achive much until he reached about 13!
As long as hes reasonably safe I would very calmly say no to his demands and walk away, it's not so much fun without an audience.

[EveryoneElsesMumSaidYes]

Mine was a pretty calm child
I found ignoring bad behaviour and rewarding good behaviour worked. He soon learnt that tantrums didn't achive much until he reached about 13!
As long as hes reasonably safe I would very calmly say no to his demands and walk away, it's not so much fun without an audience.

[Dairybanrion]

Oh. I can top that.
1.5 hours here. Can't remember the reason but I wrote it in his baby book for prosperity.
But it's v hard. Especially if you any bit stressed or overwhelmed with work which i often am.
And yes I get days of.... Christ this isn't normal.
But he is normal.
Mine has just turned 4. He was a hard child to rear ....since birth if I'm honest.

[ninenicknames]

Dairy I'm with you so is DS

As a baby he was awful

Don't get me wrong the joy out weighs the bad, but fuck me when he blows does he blow.

Good point about my own stress levels too .... Work can get to me, which in turn follows to him I suppose.