So we have a 17 month old ds and also a 3 week old. 3 week old was premature and spent 2 weeks in special care. He's still tiny. Dh is off work on pat leave but going beck next week. I'm panicking about how on earth I'm going to cope on my own with the two of them!
Ds1 is very high maintenance. There is no respite unless he is in bed. He wants to be constantly on the run and off. He wont sit still. Feeding the baby is going to be very difficult with him like this. I can't see that he would sit quietly reading a book while I feed the baby - it's just not how he is. On top of this, he has developed massive attachment to dh who has had to do most of the childcare for him as I was in hospital for a week and had a c section, so still can't lift him. He doesn't like me very much either and only wants dh (goes into meltdown when dh leaves the room but ignores me). He also keeps trying to kick me and hit me which is not ideal. I guess it's his way of dealing with the new baby.
Ds1 is also going through a picky eating phase. He throws pretty much whatever you try to get him to eat unless it's fruit or bread. With things as they are I don't see how I'll have the time to cook anything for him, let alone loads of different choices for each meal!
Ds2 is obviously newborn and needs constant feeding. I'm up through the night of course, so the effects of sleep deprivation are starting to kick in now. I can't sleep when the baby sleeps obviously, and when the toddler sleeps, the baby is awake....
How do I manage all this alone?
How can I even shower or leave the house?!!! The thought of leaving the house with the two of them alone makes me feel quite panicky to be honest. What if the baby needed feeding? I can't feed a baby and watch a toddler at the same time. However, we've recently moved to a new area so I need to try to get out to meet other mums- I don't know anyone here.
Help!
Ps I really need an alcoholic drink! Of course breastfeeding largely prevents this....😒
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17 month and newborn- how on earth?!!!!
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Chattycat78 · 29/06/2016 09:13
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