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Struggling with family life

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Gems16 · 23/06/2016 14:49

Just wondering r there any other mums out there who feel like this, would help 2 know I'm not alone. Basically I'm really struggling at the minute with motherhood and being a wife. Before I say anymore I will say I love my kids and husband more than anything and I'd never change them for the world. My husband leaves the house at 7am for work and comes home at 6.30. I'm here by myself everyday as I have no family or friends close by. Then I work from home in the evenings till around 10 so by the time I get finished up I'm shattered and ready for bed! My husband & I r like passing ships. There's no time 2 do anything I enjoy and I feel like I've lost my identity, all I do is cook, clean, look after the kids. Is this really what life is like when u have kids?? Some days I just feel like running away (I wouldn't really do that). I just don't know what to do 2 make things better. I just keep telling myself its not forever and things will get better when my youngest is up a bit

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Millionprammiles · 23/06/2016 16:39

No your not alone. You need something outside of kids/husband/house for yourself.
Without my job/friends/sporadic social life/regular exercise I think i'd go insane. I though have one child, disposable income and a partner who does his equal share of parenting/chores. With multiple children, less money and a less equal division I think I'd be extremely unhappy.

Having just seen two of my married friends embark on an affair just from sheer frustration at the tedium of it all - I'd advise you to talk to your husband about your feelings and discuss what needs to change.

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Gems16 · 23/06/2016 18:23

Thanks for ur reply, I've spoken 2 my husband about this so many times I'm like a broken record. I don't think he really takes it in how I'm feeling sometimes I feel like I need 2 do something drastic for him 2 get it in his head how unhappy I am! We live in a rural village I moved here with him I'm from the city originally and I'd move back 2 my home town tomorrow if I could but its just not that easy, main problem being my son is in school here and if we moved I'd have 2 change his schools and I just don't wanna do that 2 him. He loves it here its a great area for bringing kids up in its so quiet, hardly any crime. Where as back home there's so much stuff going on with drugs, robberies things like that!

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DiggersRest · 23/06/2016 20:53

What is it you do until 10? Can you stop that? You're working 15 hour days which is very tiring!

I do sometimes feel it's like a treadmill but a few early nights and l feel better. Working until 10 means you can't get this rest.

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HisNameWasPrinceAndHeWasFunky · 23/06/2016 21:13

This is one of the main reasons I got a great childminder and went back to paid FT work. Yes I paid a lot in childcare but I really don't think I would have been happy being a SAHM to young DC.