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I'm so tired, I'm so fed up

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Endofmytether14 Fri 10-Jun-16 18:51:01

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mellowyellow1 Fri 10-Jun-16 20:21:11

Nothing wise to say but you have my sympathy flowers you sound exhausted and everything seems worse when you're tired. Is there anyone who could watch her and you could have a day to yourself?
Mine is only 3 months and already dreading when she gets older as I know how hard it's going to be blush

KP86 Fri 10-Jun-16 20:40:22

That is such a tough age! You have my empathy, I was you, six months ago. winecakeflowerschocolate (Because all four are needed!)

DS is now almost 2.2 and although we have some issues with listening and following directions (and trying to keep him alive, with no help from himself), it is so much better.

I still have days where I just want him to LEAVE ME ALONE but most of the time I enjoy his company.

As DD gets a bit older she will be able to express herself better and ask for what she wants so hopefully fewer tantrums and you can have actual conversations (mainly about Peppa Pig and the colour of every car that drives past, but that's ok), she will be able to play more imaginatively and independently, become more interested in drawing, painting and playdoh which can be stretched out activities.

What I am trying to say is the old 'this too shall pass'. And while you're waiting, grab your favourite alcoholic drink and go nuts.

KP86 Fri 10-Jun-16 20:41:38

I would actually be aching from exhaustion by the end of the day, if only because DS just took soooo much energy to be around. The relentlessness of it all!

CityDweller Fri 10-Jun-16 20:41:50

You have my sympathies. Toddlers are hard work and exhausting.

How much time do you get to yourself? To exercise or go out or do something just for you? If it's none, then can you and your DH work out a way to make that happen? E.g. do a class one night a week. Or go and have a coffee on your own on Sat afternoons. Or whatever. When DD was this age, and DH was away a lot, he'd always take her off for a few hours to the local playground on the weekend. It helped.

And, of course, it does get better. DD is 3, and still whinges and tantrums, but she's also better company. You can have proper conversations and she can tell me about her day and she's got a brilliant sense of humour.

Gardencentregroupie Fri 10-Jun-16 20:44:58

I am fairly sure my DD was the exact same age when I posted (in chat, gone now) that she was breaking me and I couldn't do it any more. My DSIS has 2 children and she says that is the absolute worst age. My DD was the pits at 19 months. She's almost 2 now, her understanding is miles better (still can't speak but communicates well), is that bit more patient, less clingy, and able to amuse herself. Honestly I felt exactly the same as you in February but I survived with no apparent damage to my liver and you will too. winecakebrewflowers

iMatter Fri 10-Jun-16 20:51:40

Are you working OP?

If not, it sounds like you would benefit from going back to work.

Some people thrive when they are at home with kids, some people don't.

minipie Fri 10-Jun-16 20:54:22

Is your DH doing his fair share - do you both get equal sleep and equal time off?

Iwillorderthefood Fri 10-Jun-16 21:00:58

I am on DD3, I felt like this with DD1, it was so hard. My coping mechanism is to keep them stimulated, I go to playgroups, the park anything rather than be in the house when it is just me and the little one. Yes things slip a bit, but I do the basics. I have found that part of the whole feeling is that of being trapped. Being out and about means the day is broken up and you are less trapped and hopefully have managed to have at least a bit of adult conversations too.

I still find it really tough, but now if it feels really bad I just get us put of the house and things feel much better.

Endofmytether14 Fri 10-Jun-16 23:39:17

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Endofmytether14 Fri 10-Jun-16 23:43:50

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Endofmytether14 Fri 10-Jun-16 23:44:32

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Mrstumbletap Sun 12-Jun-16 08:11:36

That age is hard, I remember my DS being so testing at that age. I am not a tiny tot type of person, 3 years old is much better, they can chat and play on things for longer, don't tantrum as much etc.

Just do what you can to get through it, it will get easier when she can communicate a bit more. Doesn't help you much right now, but just think this bit won't be forever.

RangerMummy1 Sun 12-Jun-16 08:31:30

God they can be bloody hard work can't they?!
Is it possible to give yourself a half day off once a week? So pick a day you don't work, book her into nursery and indulge yourself, do something you miss from your old life? I've had a few times where I've been off but still sent DS to nursery and even if I only clean the house it feels like heaven (sad I know!)! I honestly think if you can afford it then this would do both you and your daughter good.
Try not to wish her life away too much though, do have their moments. Good luck x

Endofmytether14 Tue 14-Jun-16 12:02:54

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Endofmytether14 Tue 14-Jun-16 12:04:20

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Julia2016 Tue 14-Jun-16 21:45:31

Definitely put DD in childcare for that half day. I don't work one day during the week and my DD goes to her childminder for part of that day, it allows me to get some jobs done around the house and have an hour to myself. It's very important you mind you, there's no point in you being a shell of a woman, for yourself, your marriage or your DD.

Best wishes.. x

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